I have a mother who likes to nag. What can I do to stop her from nagging? She nags almost about everything including money, her life, her marriage, her children. She just can’t stop it. I am tired with her attitude. What should I do?
Listen to her nag. Let me rephrase. Pay attention to her. People nag because they wanted to be heard. They need someone to pay attention to them. They feel that they have been left alone emotionally. They get emotionally insecure. Therefore nagging is one of the way to get an attention.
In your case, she seek attention from the family member preferably someone she believe closer to her emotionally. I know this can be torturing to listen to her nag but the moment you sit with her and start pay your attention, she will stop it slowly.
Give her time to realize that you are with her emotionally. Once she’s emotionally secure, she will stop nags and only communicate with you with love.
Since I do not have much info about the whole situation, therefore I will share my experiences as constructive solution.
I tried this many times. Once I heard the nagging, I asked her if she wants a coffee. I made her coffee. I sat with her and listen to her. Sometimes I throw a little argument to show her that I am listening to her. Most of the time, I just agreed with her. The result was astonishing. There were times we wake up in the middle of the night and sat at the dining table and talk about the life without a nag.
It works for me and it works for my friends. So I believe it should work well on you too.
Remember this: Sit. Drink. Communicate and Love. It’ll do you wonder.
As much as we need love from our mothers, they need love from their child too. When we were babies, we cry to seek attention from our parents. When we were kids, we roll on the floor just to get attention from our parents. When we were adult, we walk away when they seek attention from us.
Think of this, where’s the love that we should return back to them?
It’s all about love and attention. When you give one, you will get it back even more.
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