Do you remember when was the last time you wish you can be like the person you admired? Do you remember when was the last time you wish you have some kind of unique abilities or creativity? Do you remember when was the last time you say “I accept who I am” especially in the moments of failures?

When it comes to weaknesses, almost everyone wish that they can be different and better. We accept who we are when we score high in life but not when we fail. We pat and cherish ourselves when we achieve success but, do we do the same when we fail? Have you ever pat your own shoulder and say “It’s okay. We do great” when you actually in the moment of failure? We tend to give ourselves self-discrimination when we dealing with failure. I have to say it is a normal reaction that we adapt from the society (cherish the success and boo the failures) but it is not normal to be applied on ourselves.

As a human, we always seek equality from others but rarely from ourselves. We desire equal and respect from others but we rarely give the same to ourselves. Try to look back and remember what have we done to ourselves especially when we fail in achieving our dreams? Many of us would criticize own-self.

• “What is wrong with me?”
• “How can I failed?”
• “Am I a loser?”
• “Am I weak?”
• “Why am I so blind?”

If you always ask yourself these questions, please stop and think this way instead. Failure is not entirely means we are weak. Failure is just another life teacher who is there to teach us the right way to the success. Weaknesses on the other hand are very general in meaning. A person can be weak at expressing emotion but great at expressing mind objectively. If the person choose to work as actor, he would fail but not if he’s the person who solve problems on financial. Hence, I don’t see weaknesses as weak but I see it as imperfection.

What’s the different between weaknesses and imperfections?

A weakness is the reflection of the imperfection. When we use our imperfections to score in life, we tend to bring weaknesses to the surface. When weaknesses emerge, we claim it as failure. That is why people often see failures as negative. But the truth that failure is nothing but a success guru in life.

Why are we imperfect? 

Imperfection is the balance factor in life. Imperfection is like pieces of puzzles that fit one another. Without imperfection, you and I are the same in everything. When everyone is the same, we do no longer need each other to live and that is not the purpose of life. Every human are made to be with everyone.

Perfection means all the space are equally filled and progress no longer need in life. Imperfection, on contrary offers space to growth. As a human, we are made to growth and to progress and we progress better in imperfection. The reason is because our desire to achieve perfection from the imperfection. That force of desire motivates us.

What’s the benefit of imperfection?

Imperfection allows us to discover ourselves deeper. Going through the challenges and failures will make us know self abilities and talents. Knowing our imperfection can help us build our strengths too. It is alright to be imperfect. We should not feel different from others because everyone has their own imperfection.

In marriage and others relationships, imperfection offers opportunity of learning and helping each other. I always remind couples that imperfection is beauty in relationship. Never see imperfection as the gap, instead see it as opportunity to growth together. This concept of imperfection applies in life too. I learned a lot from others because my imperfection didn’t give me the knowledge by itself. My imperfection helps me to connect with others as much as my strength connects me with other.

When some people use imperfection to achieve their goals, I would suggest you to use your strengths for this matter. Your strengths will help you outgrowth your abilities and talents easier. However, do not leave your imperfection behind. Your imperfections would often offer you spaces to growth especially on new things and new knowledge. In achieving goals, you may use your imperfection to oversee the failures in advance.  This method will help you reduce the failure and give more space to success.

The song I attached together with this article is dedicated to those who often see themselves as weak and fail to achieve in life. My message is your imperfection is one of the key to your success. Leverage from it. And rise whoever you are because your success is waiting for you!

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