Go make mistakes today.
The first response you will get for yourself is FEAR. A sign your ego is at its defense ‘you cannot make mistakes because mistake is humiliating. You cannot fail because failure is humiliating’. Let the thought be. Acknowledge it but do not give energy to it. Do not analyze how far the future mistakes and failures would be. Don’t think further than the first thought.
This can stop the fear of failure from growing as a feeling, where it will let you sail with your unconscious belief that you can never achieve success in your life. If you sail together with these thoughts of failure far from your consciousness and far away from your awareness, you have already failed in reality.
Then make your first step, an opposite step of failure; a successful step. This is a crucial step because to do the opposite of failure is already a success. This success is far greater than the one you imagine would happen in the future because it heals the fear of failure in you in an instant. And because it increases your self-esteem one strength at the time.
Never fear failure because failure and success are equally divided. If you are making a success, you must expect failures. Likewise, if you are making failures, you must expect success. Both successes and failures draw each other closer. When you think of success, your mind draws the thought of failure too. When you think of failure, your mind draws the thought of success for you. It is not the success or failure that brings the fear in you but the conflict you have when these two entities draw each other. So it is important to aware that this is just your mind bring balance for you.
And for the third step, practice surrender. Sometimes thoughts can go wild on making you feel like a failure. Whatever you are thinking in your mind, ALWAYS trust your feeling, intuition, guts, God; that whatever failures you are experiencing, it is happening to MAKE YOU A SUCCESSFUL PERSON.
Now take a deep breath and get ready to make mistakes and face failures. Learn and forgive yourself along the journey. And see what is unfolding for you.
2 thoughts on “How to Deal with Thoughts of Failure?”
I really like your advice on allowing yourself to feel whatever it is you’re feeling. I’m currently trying to move towards self employment (http://blueskiesbegins.wordpress.com/)
and learning about all the ups and downs that come with it. It’s exciting but I will take a deep breath and continue 🙂
Hi Harper (my apology if I got your name wrong), thank you for your feedback. I wish you good luck. Never give up and keep breathing especially when you going through the tough times 🙂