Do What We LOVE!

Work is also a prayer, not in the form of words but actions. When we love what we do, the doing become a meditation, the mind becomes creative, and the body become joyful.

But when we do not love the work we do, then the prayer is filled with un-love energies, the action is not powerful, and the body becomes weak and ill.

Do what you love. Start with that. Then the doing becomes natural and full of Love. It is one way to cherish yourself and honour your purposes. And through the doing, you get to share your deepest Love with the world.

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Are You in an Abusive Relationship?

Here’s what you need to know. People who are stuck in an abusive relationship are not stupid. Abusive is not just an act but also a chain of energy.

I wrote two articles about it and focused on the energetic level and explained why abusive relationships are challenging to get rid, and how to shift our awareness about it.

Link:
https://issuu.com/waveslifestyle/docs/issue_53_the_iskandarian_jan_2017_w/19
https://issuu.com/waveslifestyle/docs/the_iskandarian_feb2017web

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I Love to Judge but…

Everyone has Judgemental Mind (whether the energy is defined or undefined, everyone experience it). And the judgemental mind has its energy. Every energy has polarity (duality, yin/yang, berpasangan) including the judgemental mind. One side of the energy has lower vibration, and the other end of the energy has the highest vibration.

What Happen to Us When We Use The Judgemental Energy?

The lowest vibration of this energy will make a person tend to gossip and judge others in a negative way. The highest expression of this energy will cause the individual become a skillful thinker which the analytical mind could see differences and similarities of patterns and shape of Life. Scientists and intellectual falls into this category.

The judgemental mind is not bad or evil. It has its purpose to serve human in seeing differences and similarity so humanity could thrive from time to time. It is how we use the judgemental mind that counts. If we stuck in the lowest expression of this energy, we constantly hurting people through our judgements (gossips, bad-mouthing, etc). If we live in the highest expression of this energy, we can change the world because through the judgement comes understanding, corrections and solutions.

Judgemental Energy, judge and analyse. That’s all it do. But the vibrational point in which we execute our causes can make a lot different in our life and the world. If you want to see yourself think differently or experience the highest expression of this energy, you need to shift the judgemental energy from moment to moment.

 

Shift your mind and you shift your world

How Do We Shift The Energy?

We can do it through silence. Judgemental energy needs to express its trait through the throat centre. Be wise in your expression through this energy. For example, if you can catch yourself gossips about others, you can become aware that your judgemental energy is vibrating at the lower vibration. Quickly shift yourself into a silence mode. Say No More! and walk away.

The other way is through reading and analytical thinking on similarity and differences between what we perceive and what we believe. I practice this a lot when I read books on different ideology and beliefs. For example, when I read books about consciousness, I use the energy to judge the differences and also the similarities between one religious culture to another…And I do it just for the fun of judging and thinking

If you can shift the judgemental energy into a higher vibration, you can see the different in the way you think and experience the reality. Shift your mind and you shift your world.

 

Note: The Judgemental Energy trait can be found in the channel 18/58 (Human Design). 

Respond Vs React – Emotional Healing

Hello Beautiful Souls

Here’s my Vlog #2 and it’s about the different between Respond and React in energetic motion. You might want to check it out how we screw up especially when it comes to reacting. Happy watching! and if you enjoy the video, I invite you to subscribe the channel – Quantum Love.

How to Respond to Egomaniac People?

This is very interesting subject to express in the blog. The reason is I took weeks to go through the lessons too. Dealing with ego mind can drained the energy and cause us emotionally and mentally tired. I have been through that for weeks and then I realise this; all of us took years to just understand ‘Why we have these people in our lives?’. Although we know that everyone is a teacher and if they didn’t teach us beautiful experiences, they teach us the ugly ones. But that’s not the salvation. We didn’t stop experiencing ugly moments in life even after we knew the answer. And it keeps coming back to us, isn’t it? So answering the question is not the solution here.

Egomaniac people (the term is just for the article only) are people who unconsciously run their lives through their ego minds. They (the people) are the passenger and the driver is the ego mind. They go where the ego mind takes them, which against their free spirit. You can see there are many people still stuck in their ego minds, and that including me and you. We have been generalized into ego being. Although the consciousness is rising and there are many people are now practise to be present and allow the ego minds to lose its control, there are also people who still hasn’t aware. And these are the people who appear in our presence for many reasons and one of it is to get touch with the light of consciousness that we bring into this world.

The ultimate way to face the egomaniac people is to be present, be in the state of love. That also the easiest way but not many people understand the concept of Just It. So I’m going to share with you the practical ways to face the egomaniac people so you didn’t get caught in the dramas and hopefully in the same time shed some light into their beings with love.

Short respond.

Here’s the ugly truth. When we are dealing with war between egos, nobody wins. The energy of the war itself is use to feed the egos and we end up in emotional pain. But in moments like this (the war), we are so tempted to be heard, we are so eager to explain the ‘truth’ of ourselves but war means no explanation needed.

So the best way to deal with it is just give short respond to the person. And from my experiences, I just responded “okay” or “alright”. Then I leave before my ego mind takes the driver seat.

Avoid their games.

The ego always wanted to be feed. It creates situations so it can be feed and rises. Take a moment to observe egomaniac people; you will notice that they always find ways to create situations that can feed their egos. They complaints and give reasons that others created the situations (mostly problems) and they are the solutions. Take note how the wars in this world started. If you notice their game, avoid playing it. Walk away if you can but if that’s not the choice, just observe it without judgement. That way you wouldn’t fall into the unconscious ego game they created.

Why Play Game That You Will Lose?

Why Play Game That You Will Lose?

Breathe Consciously.

This is the gate to the ultimate way; being present. Breathe as if the only way to stay alive is to stay aware that you are breathing. No thinking by doing that. Just breathe. Go inward with the miracle healing of air and oxygen. And then in between you and the other person is a space for transformation to take place. There was a time when I did this; I noticed the breathing of the said person become aligned with mine, in same beat and harmony. Then the person no longer feel trapped in his own unconscious mind. That’s how we can help ourselves and let the transformation and the light of consciousness help the other person.

Be Transparent.

If you read the book The Power of Now, you would familiar with ‘Be Transparent’. But it takes lots of practise to be transparent. Transparent in this context is not related to honesty. It’s something like soul, transparent. It’s something like clear water where you can see what’s inside it. If you can see aura, you only see the transparent colour(s). Do notice that you can also see whatever things behind the aura, the visible things. That’s what it means by being transparent. This method, whatever is coming onto you will not hit you because there is no wall to hit. It then will go through you; just like your sight go through the aura, the soul (that’s including spirits) and water.

Most important point here is not to fall into the unconscious ego mind that you have in you. That’s the whole point of this article. It’s not about changing the egomaniac people and forces them to surrender their ego mind. That’s not our job. This practical ways is about saving ourselves so that we do not stop rising our consciousness from day to day. The rest will be taken care just the way it is.

Part 1: Dealing With Difficult Situations – Mag Aug and July 2013

Those who have followed my blog since last year knew that I am contributing articles on motivation, personal growth and healing to a lifestyle monthly newspaper/magazine called The Iskandarian/Waves Lifestyle. All the articles that I wrote and I am writing are to inspire reader, to educate readers on energy healing and emotional healing and to give hope to many people who feel that life is tough and uneasy.

Recently I have brought the magazine and the previous articles (re-printed) to the new readers, Filipinos who I worked together as a team. I am grateful that the sharing of experiences and knowledge are expanding to the international readers like the Filipino.

And now, I am truly happy to share it to the rest of the world. I will post two articles in one blog publishing. Enjoy the reading and please help me spread the messages if you feel the articles are inspiring and helpful to you and to the people around you. Thank you and I love you!

Latest Article – August 2013
Title: Dealing With Difficult Situations.
In this tough time, you can learn the simple way to deal with the difficult situations. All you need is daily practises!
Link: http://issuu.com/waveslifestyle/docs/the_iskandarian_aug_2012_issue_12_w

Dealing With Difficult Situations

Dealing With Difficult Situations

July 2013
Title: The Art of Solving Problems
solving problems is a need and it’s easy if you know how! Learn it in 300 words.
Link: http://issuu.com/waveslifestyle/docs/the_iskandarian_july_2013_web

The Art of Solving Problems

Five Secret Keys of Letting Go a Hurtful Relationship

Letting go a hurtful relationship is not easy. Many people choose not to let go because of this feeling; letting go makes them weak, alone and vulnerable. It is true that no one wants to be in a dark tunnel where darkness crawls up all over their feeling. The burden of uncertainties after the break up is unbearable, especially after damages done in the relationship. No one wants to bare the energy drain from the hurtful dramas.

People choose to forget but not forgive (because forgiveness is not easy too). So the next day they hear nothing about dramas. They believe that things are patching up and getting better. They want to believe that they are healing until few days later, or few weeks later, they were caught in the same dramas again, trap in the same arguments again and heartache hold them hostage once more.

The scenario I described above are the same scenarios that majority of the population are going through in a hurtful relationship. They choose to remain in the hurtful relationship because they simply fear of letting go. It is true that letting go is never easy. However, it can be achievable if all of us know the secret keys of letting go:

Key #1: Knowing that Hurtful Relationship is a Choice.
Pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice. A hurtful relationship like abusive spouse, mentally and emotionally drama queen or king or even a cheater can cause pain to the people in the relationship. No one can avoid the pain. However, accumulation of pain leads to suffering. The fine line between pain and suffering is the choice we make to accumulate the pain or to walk away from the relationship (for relationship that has no hope to heal).

Key #2: Clarity and Courage.
Once we understand the different between pain and suffering, clarity will open the door for courage to emerge to the surface. Clarity is the power. Courage is hope. To get here, we must first make our choice.

Key #3: Self Love.
The fact is no one can love us until we love our-self unconditionally; which means we love our-self with forgiveness, accept our weaknesses and flaws, self-respect and many more. People tend to ask, doesn’t self love sounds like being an egoistic person? The answer is no. Self love is a love we give towards our-self without judgment. For example; we know that we are facing hurtful relationship. Instead of bashing and cursing our spouses, we accept that we are in the worst relationship at the present moment.

  • We know that, by cursing him/her, we are cursing our-self in return.
  • We know that; by forgiving our-self for being in the hurtful relationship, our strengths (to walk through or walk away from the hurtful relationship) are growing within us.

Key #4: Respect.
Respect cannot be demand, it can only be earned. That didn’t just apply for others but for self too. If we want to be respected in the relationship; we must first respect our-self enough by not putting our-self in the hurtful relationship repeatedly.

Key #5: Have Faith.
What could be worse than staying in hurtful relationship? To see and feel a joyful and happy life is to believe that joy and happiness exist. How can we see and feel joyful and happy life when we are facing hurtful relationship and on-going dramas in the relationship for 247? Remember this; joyful and happy life happens when we are ready to live our lives in a joyful and happy ways.

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Five Secret Letting Go Hurtful Relationship

Five Secret Letting Go Hurtful Relationship

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How to Deal with Thoughts of Failure?

Go make mistakes today.

The first response you will get for yourself is FEAR. A sign your ego is at its defense ‘you cannot make mistakes because mistake is humiliating. You cannot fail because failure is humiliating’. Let the thought be. Acknowledge it but do not give energy to it. Do not analyze how far the future mistakes and failures would be. Don’t think further than the first thought.
This can stop the fear of failure from growing as a feeling, where it will let you sail with your unconscious belief that you can never achieve success in your life. If you sail together with these thoughts of failure far from your consciousness and far away from your awareness, you have already failed in reality.

Then make your first step, an opposite step of failure; a successful step. This is a crucial step because to do the opposite of failure is already a success. This success is far greater than the one you imagine would happen in the future because it heals the fear of failure in you in an instant. And because it increases your self-esteem one strength at the time.

Never fear failure because failure and success are equally divided. If you are making a success, you must expect failures. Likewise, if you are making failures, you must expect success. Both successes and failures draw each other closer. When you think of success, your mind draws the thought of failure too. When you think of failure, your mind draws the thought of success for you. It is not the success or failure that brings the fear in you but the conflict you have when these two entities draw each other. So it is important to aware that this is just your mind bring balance for you.

And for the third step, practice surrender. Sometimes thoughts can go wild on making you feel like a failure. Whatever you are thinking in your mind, ALWAYS trust your feeling, intuition, guts, God; that whatever failures you are experiencing, it is happening to MAKE YOU A SUCCESSFUL PERSON.

Now take a deep breath and get ready to make mistakes and face failures. Learn and forgive yourself along the journey. And see what is unfolding for you.

If you are making mistakes

If you are making mistakes

Bubbles of Thoughts

If everything in this world exists to tell and teach us something about life, there must be something about the ocean bubbles too. Why are they here? Of course, it is a process of momentum by the waves but why bubbles; an existence of a short-lived life?

Try this perspective;

Let say the ocean bubbles, every of it represent our thoughts. It comes and go in one seconds. It is rare to see ocean bubbles last for a minute. When a bubble appear and disappear, another bubbles take turns. On the beautiful shores around the world, there are countless of bubbles. Perhaps millions or billions, come and go.

Our thoughts work the same way too. Given all the human in this world right now processing thoughts, it could be billions of thoughts appearing right now. Just like the ocean bubbles appearing right now. And as I write this, new thoughts appeared and go, new bubbles appeared and go too.

The similarity is thoughts exist less than seconds too (perhaps less than one second). And the existence of the thoughts never die, just like the existence of the bubbles. Thoughts in general are countless in numbers. That is why we always complaint that we have so many things in our minds. Although they come and go like the bubbles, but their abstract appearance like monkey swings from one branch to another is considered messy most of the time. Hence, we get discomfort by too many thoughts.

So what can we do? We certainly can’t stop the thoughts from coming into our minds, just like the shore can’t stop the bubbles from appearing. However, there is a thing we can do.

Do nothing.

Let the thoughts come and go as it is. Just like the sandy shores let the foam of bubbles come and go as it is. Have you seen any shores in this world hold the bubbles and wait for another momentum so the size of the bubbles become bigger? No. The shores allow the waves work as it is and allow the bubbles appear as it is. We should do the same thing too. Let the thoughts appear as it is. Don’t hold on the thoughts and make it bigger by adding energy to it (by thinking more about it).

Now, don’t get me wrong. There are important thoughts and these thoughts need to be expanded by put it into a plan and actions, healing and creating. It is a process we call manifesting. But think of it wisely, how many thoughts that come to you today are important?  Let say out of thousands thoughts? And really, you must know it. The reason we get mentally tired and miserable because we try to live by all the thoughts! On every thoughts that appeared, we tried to analyze it. We tend to judge it. We try to understand it.

Part of the beautiful beach and shore is the bubbles that appeared after the sound of waves hit the floor. Part of the beautiful mind is our thoughts that appear after one another. Let it be as it is. Let it swing in your mind. Don’t pay attention to it unless it is really important to be manifested into your life. If you do this long enough (on daily practice) you will notice that the thoughts didn’t really have power over you. It just thoughts. You will also notice that they didn’t appear quite frequently as they used to be. You will be surprised that important thoughts will appear visible in your mind compared to unimportant thoughts. Then remarkable ideas and creative thoughts are easily access at this point.

If we didn’t pay attention to our thoughts, where else can we pay attention to?

Life. Pay attention to life entirely. Pay attention to your body by feeling it. Pay attention to the life around you by feeling it. Feels it in your heart and every part of your body. Use all your senses but not your mind. Pay attention to your breathing and you will notice that life breathe as you breathe.

This method of shifting your consciousness has been taught beautifully by Eckhart Tolle in his book The Power of Now.

You have the power to stop from getting miserable with the thoughts that comes into your mind. Let it be. If it is yours and it’s important to be manifested, you just know what you need to do. Otherwise, be harmony like the bubbles and the shores. Accept one another as it is. Accept the thoughts that comes into your mind with love. They will do nothing harm to you and you will not feel mentally tired easily.

If You Must.

For some people, they want to be identified by their thoughts. They take serious note on what is going on inside their mind. They simply need to know what are the things that bothering their minds. Some people needs clarity. It is alright if you must know. Here some simple tips on how you can untangle the messy chains of thoughts in your mind.

Write all the thoughts that appear in your mind in one piece of paper. Spend five minutes for this task. You will be surprised that thousand thoughts you claimed swinging in your mind are actually less than 10 thoughts counted in number. This happen because only important thoughts scream the most. Once you know what kind of thoughts that bothering your mind, you can start taking necessary actions to solve and heal the matter. You can use the same method if you have too many ideas in your mind that you need to manifest the thoughts into reality.

Bubbles of Thoughts

Bubbles of Thoughts

How to Heal Your Past?

We all have our pasts; the happy ones, the hurtful ones, the joyful or the terror ones. We all been there and experienced it. Sometimes we remember our pasts to the details especially the hurtful ones. How can we not? Why should we forget about our pasts since it was part of the reason of who we are? Even if we could forget who we were in the past, can we forget the memory? We are all human; there is no delete button in our heads. So why are talking about forgetting our past?

My fellow readers, I must say this; Keep the Past. Do not throw it away. Do not deny it. Do not run away from it. Do not go crazy with it too. You must understand that the past, present and future cannot be separated. However, it can be healed.

1. Make Peace with It.

When your past is haunting you right to the present moment, make peace with it. It means making peace with you entirely. It will help you stop sabotage your present moments; the joy that you entitled to achieve.

What happen if you didn’t make peace with it? It makes you think you are living your past. It makes you want to believe that it have created you (therefore you must live with it). By thinking you are living on it, you have added more energy to it. It makes it harder for you to forget it.

Although the past cannot be separate with you, the truth is you are not living it. It only lives the memory Inside Your Mind. So make peace with it. And how can you do that? Read the next one.

2. Acceptance.

Accept whatever that happened to you in the past. Accept the pain and the situation all-together. Accept the shame, the guilt and the resentment. Only by acceptance, you acknowledge that the past is another subject of energy; a totally different from your being. This subject of energy that attached to you is the energy from the memory. By accepting it, you have detached yourself from the energy of the past. You are now looking at it from the eyes of the present YOU instead of the eyes of your past.

Tips: Write a letter to your past. Mention what you are feeling right now about your past. Say what you must with kindness and love. Write it from the heart of a Love being and not from the mind that pass judgement or emotions that get carried away.

3. Forgive Yourself.

Whether things that happened in your past was your mistake or somebody else, give forgiveness to yourself first and then others. Forgiveness is healing. After you have detached yourself from the energy, you should fill the void with love. By filling it with forgiveness, you have already given love to yourself.

Tips: Say I Love You as much as you can. Write and say a simple affirmation such as “I am filling myself with Love and allow forgiveness to heal my past. And so it is. Thank You”

You may ask; what’s the difference it makes, the memory is still there?

The memory doesn’t go away. That’s the fact. What goes away is the energy that attached to the memory. By these processes, the energy gets transmuted. Once it transmuted, whenever you recall the memory or it came back to you in surprise, you will look at it as a witness rather than as a victim. You will face it with love rather than judgement. You can smile at it and not going crazy thinking you are your past. The past no longer sabotage your present moments.

In the other words it gives you Healing.

Make Peace With Past