The Universe in Us

Do you know what’s inside you are doing? Do you have a clue what is happening right now inside the cells in your body? Do you know what your lung cells were doing right now? You have no idea isn’t it? No worries. I’m no biology nerd and I have no idea what they were doing too. However, one thing I knew for sure that inside our bodies there are systems that works in harmony.

Sounds crazily positive? The answer is – this is what our bodies do. Every cell, every nerve is working in harmony. We don’t have to be a biologist to feel that. Try these three for a minute or two and you will feel the universe inside you is working in harmony.

Our Heart. Every Beats Give Us Life

The Heart

Close your eyes and listen to your heartbeat. Imagine your heart is beating (it’s not that hard to imagine it. Youtube it if you never seen a heart beats). Feel the sensation of every beats. Touch the left part of your chest like you are touching your heart. While doing that, realize this: These cells (in form of heart) are the reason you are still here, alive. These cells serve you right now without question and it doesn’t care who you are. Therefore, embrace it while it still beating.

The Brain

Close your eyes and imagine your brain. Imagine every thoughts you have are like lights moving from one part to another. Imagine every cell and neuron is transmitting knowledge and information. These cells are the reason you are still here, thinking and alive. You are no retard because these cells serve you well. It moves your entire body, it make sure your heart beats and it ensure the system inside you is working in harmony without you have to control it.

These cells (in form of brain) was place on top of our head as a sign of respect, therefore these cells is working with respect. It serves us with respect. As a return, respect them by generates good and beautiful thoughts.

The Brain and Mind That Control Our System

The Lungs

Now imagine your lungs. These cells serve you breathing. When you were sleeping, it still serves you. Place your hands on your chest and feel the air moving inside and out. Embrace these cells because they serve you without you have to carry a tank of oxygen everywhere you go.

The Lungs That Help Us Breathing

We can imagine and feel every part of our bodies and how they serve us without judging us at all! All these cells collaborate with each other’s without we have to control them every seconds. It’s like the external universe where the sun, the moon, the winds, the clouds, the stars and everything else are working accordingly without our control. So, the systems inside us represent a universe too.

These days, the lifestyle is making us busy and paying attention on the external instead of the internal. It makes us forget that what’s inside us that give us the freedom to explore the external universe. If any of these cells or any part of the universe inside us stops working, we will be stop living too. If any part of these system shutting down or fail to work, we will physically fail to live too.

How to Love Them?

It would be beautiful to embrace every cell, every nerve and every working system we have inside us. Embrace them by listening to them. Love them by pay attention to them. Send prayers and gratitude to them for working in harmony. Feed them with good things, good foods and good thoughts (for the brain). Most important thing, never judge them especially when we get sick. Never call them by the sickness. Believe in them because they know their work. They know what God make them to do. Believe that they are trying their best to heal the sickness in us.

For them, who never judge us even for a second…and for them that work with love and in harmony for us, I believe we should do the same too.


Emotions of Love and Hate

There is an invisible element ‘located‘ in the middle of our body and it never appear physical, only can be explained through actions and words. The element we called it ‘Emotion’ are given to us and it cannot be separated from us.  We use emotion everyday in our lives especially for communication. As much as emotion is a tool to connect within ourselves or others, it also can be a tool that destroys our lives.

Since it cannot be separated from us, therefore the only matter is whether we make it grow or we only use it at the right time. There are emotions that give us peace and happiness in life when we outgrew them. There are also emotions that destroy our lives if we allow it become a master of all emotions.

In building our Personal Brand, we must know how to use the emotions, how to master it and what would be our main emotion that can represent us as a person. Before we know the technicality of mastering the right emotion, we must know these emotions are separated into two groups: Positive Emotions and Negative Emotions (refer pictures A and B)

Picture A: Positive Emotions

The ultimate Positive Emotions is Love, whereas the ultimate Negative Emotions is Hate. It is important for us to reach the ultimate positive emotion (Love) and avoid the ultimate negative emotion (Hate). And it is easy to reach Love than Hate.

Picture B: Negative Emotions

Picture B: Negative Emotions

When we use the positive emotions, it means we have outgrown love in us. Passion, enthusiasm, satisfaction, gratitude, joy, hope and excitement appear because we have love. Once we feel these positive emotions, we reach the Love.

As for negative emotions, we can’t throw it away but we can control it. Every negative emotions can bring us to feel hate, especially when we use it every day. For example, if a person can’t control her anger, soon or later she will reach the point where she feels hate at almost everything in her life. She will get angry at almost everything in her life. It also goes this way: when these negative emotions appear, it doesn’t mean we are full of hate (not yet because hate take times to grow). It just means we are lack of Love.

When there is love, hate will go away. 

In Law of Attraction (as describe in The Power book by Rhonda Byrne) it is important for us to live our daily lives at least 51% of it fill with positive emotions. It is called – Tipping Point. Of course it is impossible to live at 100% of joy and excitement everyday without a slight irritation, fear or worry. Therefore, it is okay to feel the negative emotions but only to use it as a quick respond of the event that occurs in our lives. It means, when someone throw a stone at you and you believe you should get angry because it is hurting you, be angry then…but only to pick up the stone and put it aside and not carry the stone and be angry at it every day for the rest of your life.

Note: Source of list of emotions is from the book – The Power by Rhonda Byrne.

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Are You Running On Same Circle?

John Doe have been in his third relationship since 17 years ago. He divorced twice and his third marriage doesn’t seem give any different to him. According to him, he married a woman who carried same trait as his ex-wives. She loves to nag.

Somewhere in Asia, Jane Doe, an owner of a medium size company described her only problem in the organization – spending more time training newcomers than expanding her business. She realized the pattern since two years ago and she’s still training newcomers.

What Would You Feel If You Are Running in Same Circle?

What can you tell from both stories? The answer is they are running on same circle. It gets them nowhere so far and they keep coming back to same matter. If you realize, it took them years to figure it out and yet, they still running on same circle. Aren’t we all are too? So how do we know if we are running on the same circle?

It takes effort to see our lives from different point of view. Not many people love to evaluate their own life. For some reasons, we always thought we are right, therefore we do not need to evaluate ourselves and our lives. We insist that nothing is wrong with us and it always others that do wrong.

If you never mirror yourself, you can start doing it now. It is not to find blame but to improve your life. It is not to self-demoralize but to create progress in life. It is important to know if you running in same circle over these years. If you do, you can figure out how to break the point of the circle and create progress in life.

Spot the Circle.

1) Facing Same Problems

  • It’s easy to find out. List down things you always complaint about in a small book. Bring the book everywhere you go and jot down every single complaint you made. After a week, look back and figure this out: – What are the same complaints you made?
  • Get help from your closest friends. Ask them what are the things you always complaint about? Write it down too.

2) Same Pattern of life.

  • Ask yourself this question: – What are the newest things you have done recently? 

3) Getting Bored.

  • How many times you get bored in a week or in a month?
  • Can you remember when was the last time you told someone that you are feeling bored and tired with your life?

Once you have answered these questions, let’s go for the solutions.

Solutions

1) Solving the Same Problems.

Solving Problems Will Make You Go Forward

Same complaints you made define what’s in your life. You don’t like it. You want to get rid of it. Somehow you believe you can’t because you thought the problem comes from others. Therefore, you make complaint. The more you complaint about certain problem, the more it define how deep it affect your life. Remember, no one complaint about anything if it doesn’t affect her emotionally or mentally.

Understand and accept the problems are the key to the solution. Never run away from it. When it comes to solve our problem, always open up our mind. It might not always be somebody else mistakes. It can easily be ours wrongdoing too. Get ready to accept it. This will also explain why all the previous solutions don’t work and still making us running on same circle. It makes thing easier to fix when we know the real source of the problem.

2) Create New Pattern in Life.

It’s easy to create new pattern in life. Learn new things. Do something you never do before. There are plenty of things you can do in life to fill up the enjoyment in you. When I insist people to learn new things, they always snap at it by saying “I don’t enjoy doing it” or “I don’t have time“. We all know it just an excuses. You wouldn’t know if you don’t enjoy it unless you experience it.

3) Create Progress.

Our soul, mind and body know how to tell us if we do not make progress in life. One of it is they give us these feelings, bored and uneasy. When they eager to create progress but we are doing the contradictory, they will start to shout inside us. That is how we get the uneasy feeling in us. When we didn’t know what is happening, it will make us feel bored with our lives.

Creating progress by progress will make you feel alive. I never heard people who make progress in life feel bored. All I know, they always move forward. After one progress, they create another new one. As far as I concern, they have happy souls with strong mentality. When our soul, mental and body are on same track, we will never get bored.

Finding Peace in You

If you start to feel bored, find a quiet place and feel what’s inside your heart. Talk to yourself. Figure out what makes you bored. Make a progress out of your boredom. Knowing what makes you feel bored is a progress itself. Last, find total closure and create more progress.

Stop running in the same circle. It gives you nothing but boring life. Just like what have been quoted by Robin Sharma “Many people live the same year 80 times and call it a life”. Make a progress and make one now!

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The Power of Gratitude

I thought about this last night and planning to share it with my all my readers. I believe it is worth to live by this knowledge, to acknowledge the beautiful gift we all have in us. And this gift is our brains. Brain that works wonder and create imagination beyond anything in the world.

Before I went to bed last night, I had said this:

“Thank you God for the healthy mind I have and for the vision I able to imagine. Thank you for letting me create the path I want through this element – thoughts”

And I opened my eyes. Something hit my mind, and it makes me wonder. How does this work for Down syndrome people? How they see their life? For all we know, Down syndrome described as ‘… associated with some impairment of cognitive ability and physical growth…’-Wikipedia

Special People

Focus on this word: Cognitive. It means ‘…the scientific term for “the process of thoughts”…’ – Wikipedia.

Down syndrome people are unable to process thoughts, scientifically. If this is true, these special people are unable to create a vision like we do. They go as far as their mind can bring them, which is limited. They have a life but, they are unable to create it as far as we all do. While we imagine the life we want, they might not be able to do so. While we are allowed to create a vision and imagination through our thoughts, these special people have their limit to do so.

Thinking of it, wouldn’t you feel lucky that you have been given the greatest gift in life? A gift than allow you to create your life, the gift that allow you to adapt and expand every knowledge you receive, the gift than allow you to pick choices, the gift we all call “mind”? And yet, many of us do not use their mind and thoughts to create a better life through their beautiful imagination.

Why these people didn’t notice the power of their mind? The answer is no one will ever notice it until they say and feel gratitude. Mind is physically invisible. We always take invisible element less serious. Anything we can’t see in our life is frequently less serious compare to the things we can see and touch. That’s the reason we are always feeling our life small and nothing. That’s the reason we didn’t notice the gift of our mind.

Gratitude can offer you many things. It makes you see small things in the big picture. It makes you see the invisible, visible. It always makes you notice all the smaller things in life such as our toes, our eyebrows, our heartbeat, our brain and its ability to generate thoughts and imagination, our tiny little cells that work best for us and many more. Gratitude makes us feel that we actually have more. Gratitude makes us feel rich. It makes our life richer, bigger and more beautiful than before.

Most important, gratitude cost you nothing. It’s free. Use it day and night and you will see, your so-called small life will turn bigger than before.

And that’s the power that lies behind gratitude.

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This article was written in previous blog – May 2011

The Beauty of Spending Time Alone

When I help people built a new life for them, I noticed they have difficulties spending time with themselves, alone. To them, spending time alone means the person is lonely. Many of us so use to this term: “Connecting to People”, therefore connecting with ourselves can seems awkward and lonely activity. Is this true?

I beg to differ. As much as we need to build relationship and connect to people, we must first need to connect with ourselves. Here are the beauties of being company of you.

1) Build Your Strength.

When you spend time with people 247, you tend to depends on people to live your life.

Sick In Bed

Without people around you, you become helpless. In case of emergency, you lost your way. You can easily get panic because you never do things alone. Simple case, you lost your way in shopping mall parking space. Your sense of direction is lot less compare to a person who use to spend time alone in shopping mall.

Spending time alone helps you build your strength and be independent. You need this character in you because losing your way in shopping mall is nothing compares to fall sick when no one is around you.

2) Perfect Time to Learn About Yourself.

How many of you know things about your friends, their like and dislike? Now, asking same question, do you know what you like and dislike? Do you know who you are? Many people paused when I asked these questions. They took time to answer.

Everyone can learn better about themselves when they are alone. Spend time with yourself and you can learn many things. Better still, you can improve many things in your life.

3) Build Trust In You.

Trusts don’t just happen between people. You need trust in you. There’s no point trusting people when you can’t even trust yourself.

When you don’t have trust in you, you will never listen to your heart, instinct and guts. That’s the reason many people tend to fall apart. Lack of trust in them makes them believe they are incapable to stand on their own.

Stop depending on people trust. Build your own trust. Nothing is wrong with people’s trust. It just, yours is always better because it comes with senses, guts, instinct and your own judgment.

4) Build Your Sensitivity.

Spending time alone helps you build your senses. Ask yourself this question, which part of your body is feeling discomfort? Or, what are you feeling right now?

Our body, mind and soul speak to us every single second. Learn to respond by listening to it. No better way to do that unless you spend time alone. Use the moment to feel many things in you.

Build your sensitivity helps you stay alert with the surrounding too.  Learn how to use your senses better. When your sensitivity and senses are high, you can easily notice things even before it happen.

5) Expand Your Flexibility.

Spending time with people will limit your flexibility. When you are with people, you are bound to people. If you want to feel freedom and flexibility in enjoying your moment, spend time alone with yourself.

Creativity Means Life

6) Expand your creativity.

Try this; do something you like in any way you like. The result will mesmerize you. When you just with yourself, you’ll do things to feel enjoy. You will do things that make you feel alive. That’s where your creativity lies. Explore your potential without anyone judging you.

7) Build Your Focus.

It’s hard to focus when people are around you. I find my best focus is when I’m alone in a room, in front of my working desk. Quietness and silent helps my brain to work better. I can focus and play with my vision without limit. You will build better focus when noises around you shutting down bit by bit.

8′) Plan Your Future.

Great leaders spend time alone to plan their future and businesses. They do not do planning when they are with people. Time spend with people is to build relationship, not planning.

If you are serious in planning your future to every detail, I suggest you spend your time with yourself alone in quiet place, with a book and a pencil. What you will see is far clearer than what you see when you with people.

9) Self-Reflection Moment.

Spend five to ten minutes every night for self-reflection moment. Ask yourself, what have you done today that contradict your desire and who have you hurt? You will never get things you desire when these two elements are in your path. Recheck your actions and results. Find out if you have hurt people in the process reaching your goal. Find out if you are the one creating the crisis. Find out if you are running in same circle.

Self-reflection best done alone and it helps you see things in many perspectives. It gives you answer throughout your senses and sensitivity. Once you have the answer, make things right tomorrow.

10) Feel Alive

Our goal is to feel alive inside. Many people don’t feel alive even when they are spending time with people. If you feel this in you, it means you have no life foundation build in you. It also means you have no connection to your soul. The best way to connect is to spend time alone, learning and loving what’s in you.

So, if you think you need people to feel alive, think again. Being with people is just to enhance our living. The root of life is in us, us and us.

As a start, try to spend time alone for 10 minutes today. In that 10 minutes, switch off your TV and computer. Sit, be quiet and enjoy the time with yourself. When you use to it, you can spend more than 10 minutes. When you can do more than an hour, go out there and have fun with yourself at least once a week. Explore the world out there with your senses and have fun with yourself.

Make it a habit and you will find lots more in you.

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