In the previous article, I have mentioned about words that creating our lives. Today, I would like to share my experiences on wishes. I am a human too; therefore I did make mistakes in turning my words into wishes. Allow me to picture the mistakes I made, so you would avoid the same mistake in life.
Every human have been granted with freewill, including freewill of wishes. If we realize, it all started with wishes. I wish to be richer, I wish I could take it, I want to be richer, I want to take it and many more wishes. Either we use the word “wish” or “want”, we already wishing for it. Remember that “we create as we speak”, every wish we made, and we are creating it. It just a matter of time for our wishes to turn into reality. How good is that? Well, it is good if we wish for the great things. But what about those negative things we accidentally wish into our lives? This happened to me last week, anger and bad wish.
It is not easy to face anger especially when we are alone. I felt it came to me and it came quick. No matter how much I prepared myself to tango with my own anger, I slipped. When we get angry, we tend to say things we didn’t mean to say. Not just that, people who get angry always ask to be leave alone. To say it is already bad, to know it’s happening for real is even worst.
I just want to be alone
That’s what I did last week. I asked silently inside my head “I just want to be alone”. As promised that everything is in creating process right now, the moment I asked to be alone was the moment everything I love to be with was slowly taken away from me indirectly. I have to say indirectly because what was taken might not necessarily in human form. It could be situation we love the most, relationships or something symbolic to us. The best example is losing support from the people who always support us. However, to realize these smallest changes in life is not everybody’s favourite. In fact, many people only realize the changes in life when something relate to it pop up as a problem. If I have not conscious enough, I would not realize the changes too.
The moment I asked to be alone, everything that I was close with (emotionally, spiritually and mentally) was slowly walked away from me. The first thing that walked away from me was the emotional support from my best friend. Knowing her for many years and she never fails me. However, that day was different. When I asked her for help, she refused to help me. Here’s the weirdest part, she gave me hint to deal with my situation alone and there’s no need for her to help me. She left me alone in a car for more than 30 minutes and she was not that kind of person.
More things happened after that. My other two best-friends were supposed to have lunch with me and they were late. Even if they were late before, they will text. But last week was totally different. They seem like ‘don’t care’ anymore. We end up have our lunches separately.
The last thing that happened completely knocks my head and realized that I had wish for something I do not want. It was my ring and I lost it like a magic. The ring represents symbolic life to me. I was cleaning my hands with a wet tissue and poof! …the ring was missing. I realized it was there and in split seconds it was gone. From that moment I asked myself “What have I wished?”
It took me less than an hour to figure out the mess. The first thing I do was Ho’oponopono cleansing. I gave love and thanked the situation for the service and experience it gave me. Then I rephrased my wishes. I said “I am grateful that I have my family and my friends, I am with them and I am with love. My ring is in my bag”. I repeated it many times for an hour.
Three hours later, I slowly searched for the ring again in my bag. Suddenly my hand felt something solid. It is my ring and it was nicely wrapped with dry tissue. Magical isn’t it? Well it is a magic if you wish to see it that way. Later that evening, my best friends and I gather together and I told them about the wishes. They were sorry for things that happened but it was not their fault. I asked for it. The time them being late or when one refused to help me was the time I asked to be alone. Life is fair. God is even fairer.
The lesson is simple, careful for what we wish for.
In the situation where we get angry, calm down before we make our wishes. Avoid ask yourself to be alone or ask people to leave you. Instead wish for the space to calm down. The simplest example is:
“I need a space so I could feel the space with love”.
When we ask for this, we are asking God to share love with us in order to help us taking care the anger. Love, no doubt will help us reduce the anger too. Not just that, people who appear in our life at that moment of anger are people who could help us growth love and reduce anger.
It is important to know that it always never too late when it comes to create a wish. So, let’s rephrase our wishes and turn our lives into something positive and loving because we do have the power to change.