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How to Heal Your Past?

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We all have our pasts; the happy ones, the hurtful ones, the joyful or the terror ones. We all been there and experienced it. Sometimes we remember our pasts to the details especially the hurtful ones. How can we not? Why should we forget about our pasts since it was part of the reason of who we are? Even if we could forget who we were in the past, can we forget the memory? We are all human; there is no delete button in our heads. So why are talking about forgetting our past?

My fellow readers, I must say this; Keep the Past. Do not throw it away. Do not deny it. Do not run away from it. Do not go crazy with it too. You must understand that the past, present and future cannot be separated. However, it can be healed.

1. Make Peace with It.

When your past is haunting you right to the present moment, make peace with it. It means making peace with you entirely. It will help you stop sabotage your present moments; the joy that you entitled to achieve.

What happen if you didn’t make peace with it? It makes you think you are living your past. It makes you want to believe that it have created you (therefore you must live with it). By thinking you are living on it, you have added more energy to it. It makes it harder for you to forget it.

Although the past cannot be separate with you, the truth is you are not living it. It only lives the memory Inside Your Mind. So make peace with it. And how can you do that? Read the next one.

2. Acceptance.

Accept whatever that happened to you in the past. Accept the pain and the situation all-together. Accept the shame, the guilt and the resentment. Only by acceptance, you acknowledge that the past is another subject of energy; a totally different from your being. This subject of energy that attached to you is the energy from the memory. By accepting it, you have detached yourself from the energy of the past. You are now looking at it from the eyes of the present YOU instead of the eyes of your past.

Tips: Write a letter to your past. Mention what you are feeling right now about your past. Say what you must with kindness and love. Write it from the heart of a Love being and not from the mind that pass judgement or emotions that get carried away.

3. Forgive Yourself.

Whether things that happened in your past was your mistake or somebody else, give forgiveness to yourself first and then others. Forgiveness is healing. After you have detached yourself from the energy, you should fill the void with love. By filling it with forgiveness, you have already given love to yourself.

Tips: Say I Love You as much as you can. Write and say a simple affirmation such as “I am filling myself with Love and allow forgiveness to heal my past. And so it is. Thank You”

You may ask; what’s the difference it makes, the memory is still there?

The memory doesn’t go away. That’s the fact. What goes away is the energy that attached to the memory. By these processes, the energy gets transmuted. Once it transmuted, whenever you recall the memory or it came back to you in surprise, you will look at it as a witness rather than as a victim. You will face it with love rather than judgement. You can smile at it and not going crazy thinking you are your past. The past no longer sabotage your present moments.

In the other words it gives you Healing.

Make Peace With Past

Why Letting Go With Fire Is Not A Good Idea?

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You just broke up with your lover and you have so much anger, fear, frustration and hatred in you. These emotions soon become non-beneficial feelings and situations to you. All you have now is the urge to take the burden away from you. Then you started to grab a piece of paper and write down your feelings. Once you have finished it, you started to burn the piece of paper. Do you do this? Are you familiar with the tips?

I’ve seen this act many times in my life. I thought it was a great steps but I was wrong. Here I am about to tell you that the act of burning it is not a good idea to get rid things and emotions. Here are the reasons why.

1. Fire promotes heat.

Do not burn the non-beneficial feelings or situations with fire. It will only get worst.

Do not burn the non-beneficial feelings or situations with fire. It will only get worst.

When you write the feelings and situations you don’t like on paper, you have transfer the energy onto the paper through your powerful words. When you burn it, the fire increase heat on the words you wrote on the paper. That is why whoever burn their emotions through this process, didn’t really heal from the pain. Instead, they get more heat from it.

2. Fire relate to anger.
How do you feel when you get close to fire? Do you feel uncomfortable burning by the heat? How do you feel when you are standing closer to someone who is angry? Do you feel intensity and uncomfortable? Fire promotes intensity. The words you just burned have increased its intensity and turning into uncomfortable sensation of yours. It also means, if you burning your anger, you only gets more anger later on.

3. Energy Can’t Be Destroyed.
Since energy can’t be destroyed, whatever feelings or situations that you try to burn are still has its energy only in different form. The non-beneficial feelings and situations you thought has been destroyed are in fact still linger in your life.

The right way to get rid things is to transmute the energy you no longer need in harmony ways. Instead of burn it, try burying it. The act of bury means death and to our subconscious mind, it means ‘no longer serve us (the living)’. In fact, the energy you put onto the paper and the paper itself will be transmuted naturally by the nature.

And here’s the important part, it is alright if you need unleash all the non-beneficial feelings on the paper but close your case with gratitude and thank the feelings or situations for their services. This way, you are not just sending it off with anger but you choose to end it with LOVE. The energy of Love (the most powerful energy in the Universe) that you give will heal the energy of anger, fear, frustration or hatred that you released earlier. In the end, it all becomes a HEALING for your emotions.

If bury is too much for you, simply throw it away outside your house for recycle process. And the key words; send it off with LOVE.

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You can also get rid of non-beneficial energies with Full Moon Ritual. Check it out here.

Five Powerful Cleansing Phrases

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I wrote this statement in my Yahoo Messenger since two weeks ago and I got many responded from people in the list. Most of the respond were curious about my life. Only one asked me directly “What’s with the status?”

The status goes like this:

I love you. I forgive you. Please forgive me. I am sorry and Thank you.

I love when people curious about these phrases and I explained to them that these are cleansing phrases. These five phrases are commonly use in daily life but many do not aware that these phrases has cleansing power. It cleanses ourselves from the unnecessary thoughts that we restore inside our mind especially our subconscious minds. In another article, it says that:

“You clean yourself from subconscious garbage – programs that run your life without your participation”- Read more here.

This cleansing technique called Ho’oponopono, started in Hawaii, founded by Morrnah Nalamaku Simeon and documented for healing proof by Dr. Hew Len, her student.

How Ho’oponopono actually work?

Dr.Ihaleakala Hew Len

Dr.Ihaleakala Hew Len

Everything in our lives was partly created by us. The creation is not just with our hands and actions but also with our minds. Everything started with our minds. Take a quick moment and check out what were the last things we have in our minds? A world peace? A meal? A solution to confrontation? A gift for the lover? A happy family? A prepared dialogue for argument? Jealousy thoughts? These thoughts and many other thoughts were sent out to the Universe and in the creation process instantly.

According to Dr. Hew Len, who have managed to heal violence patients in Hawaii State Hospital described that he do not heal them, instead he healed part of himself that created them (the patients).

Ho’oponopono and Healing

I practice Ho’oponopono everyday especially at night. Sometimes I just do the cleansing generally but sometimes I specifically focus on a thing. When I dealt with my fear and anger, I specifically use Ho’oponopono to cleanse the relationship, the situation and myself that relate to fear and anger.  Over the time, it has helped me reduce the intensity that fear and anger have towards me. It also help me to cleanse the unnecessary thoughts of anger and fear in this now moment (that I might now aware of it), so it would not emerge uncontrollably in my reality later.

When a person takes responsibility in his creation and aware that as a human, he would not be able to run away from destructive thoughts, Ho’oponopono is one of the best cleansing techniques a human could give to himself and to the rest of the world.

And here’s the best part of Ho’oponopono, it didn’t require meditation or specific ritual to cleanse our minds. It also didn’t tie to any religion specifically. These five phrases can be used anywhere, everywhere, to any situation we like, to people we love or dislike and use it for love. All we need to do is to repeat these phrases many times (many times = mantra).

  • I love you
  • I forgive you
  • Please forgive me
  • I am sorry
  • Thank you

Five beautiful phrases and yet contains powerful love and cleansing materials. Take responsibility that we are creating the life and the world. Put our egos aside, surrender ourselves to God and cleanse ourselves with love. Last, belief that the world and life that comes to us would be better, beautiful and cleaner than before.

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Some practice indicated that only four phrases require for cleansing (all above except I forgive you) but some practice indicated that I forgive you is one of the cleansing too, especially in cleansing our egos.

Hooponopono Cleansing

Hooponopono Cleansing

What Takes You So Long?

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After my little confession in this blog, I have been away for healing process. I am still in the healing process and progress is there. Actually there are lots of progresses. Challenges too. I’m going to share with you one of the biggest progress I’ve made last week; my self-love.

After nearly two months in the battle with something inside me, I have less love towards myself. It didn’t mean I hurt myself with objects and create visible scars. When a person have less self-love, things like anger, frustration and fear can easily take over the person’s life. That was what happened to me. I was no longer a happy person. I could easily felt disturbed by small little things like unexplained energy and pain. Mostly I felt fear. Anger came later on. It was easy for me to throw my anger around. I was ‘ugly’.

For a person who always promotes love but not be able to live with love was torturing. That period of tortured have made me sick. Little that I know, I have invited new sickness like nausea and vomiting and also outgrowth whatever illness I already have in me.

Courage, always in YouSo one day I went to the hospital for the follow up. The Doctor was nice but as usual he was referring to my age. Medically, I was too young for the illness. With the ‘mumble mumble‘ about the age, my ears heard but my mind not. Something inside me caught my attention but it was not clear.

After the visit, I have to wait for the medicines in the pharmacy. While waiting, I asked myself silently;

“What have I done that my body have to take all the pain?”. This question put my emotion at rest. No ego. No guilt. No fear. No anger. Just plain wonder.

Then I heard my inner voice spoke to me;

“Your body knows what to do and how to heal. Trust them and love them. We are all with you”

We? Silence. Beautiful silence.

And I felt tears in my eyes. I knew that voice. It’s a same voice that used to speak to me not long ago. It’s my courage. With tears I smiled at myself again. Touched by the visit, I started to smile again to the world.

Before I go to bed that night, I asked again;

“What takes you so long?”

“We were there, waiting for you to give us some space to growth” 

And so I did. The moment I put fear, anger and some others negative emotions at rest, even for a seconds, love inside me have found its way to take up the space. I’m eternally grateful that I made positive progress in my healing.

Until to-date, I woke up feeling healthier than yesterday. I am still healing. I am still being challenged every day. I know it will not stop until I completely take over it with Love.

Good bye Anger. Good bye Fear…and Hello Love.

We All Have Self-Love

We All Have Self-Love

Why Do These When We Get Angry?

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Yes we do get angry. We are just human. Many people gives many methods to reduce the anger when it exploded but these fives are the common ones. But do you know why we are encouraged do these when we get angry? There are reasons why it works.

1) Wash our hands with running water.
It is a symbolic act of washing out negative energy. It is just as same as we wash our hands before we eat just to get rid of the dirt and germs.

Wash Your Face When You Get Angry

2) Wash our face with running water.
Anger is heat. Try pour water on a heat pan and you will get smokes rise upward. That’s how we change the angry energy. Turn it into something light so it will get out from our body. And guess what, our head are the easiest exit.

3) Muslim was taught to perform ‘Wudhuk’ when they get angry.
Our bodies contain 70% of water, the cooling energy in our lives. What will happen when water meet water? Have you seen two drops of water meet each other? They combine and get bigger. Water doesn’t push water away. The symbolic act helps the water in our bodies to combine with the water from the nature. The cooling energy gets bigger and reduces the heat energy.

4) Walk or stand barefoot on the soil.
We came from the soil and the soil where we return. Another simple act of getting back to the nature for the healing.

5) Standing, Sitting and Lying Down Method.
When we get angry while we are standing, sit down immediately and if it doesn’t reduce the anger, lie down completely. It’s a symbolic stage of getting our bodies nearer to the force of gravity. Remember that heat rise upwards; we go the opposite, which is downwards. Gravity will hold us firmly to the ground and back to our nature again for the healing.

All these acts show us that at the vulnerable moments of our lives, nature is always there for us to get help and restore our energies back. God didn’t create nature for nothing, so use them to reduce our anger, anytime and anywhere.