How We Drained Our Energy Over Small Talk?

Why I Am Not Interested in Small Talk?

I had a great conversation with a friend who had an opposite view about small talk. Both of us have Undefined Throat. If you don’t know what Undefined Throat is; it means we have an inconsistent energy to communicate or to act. Sounds bad, isn’t it? Well, it is not bad. Undefined Throat people have the flexibility in communication and action. For example; Celine Dion is an Undefined Throat person and she is a great performer.

One thing you need to know about Throat centre is, all our energies are going to channel out through the throat. For Undefined Throat like me, I would feel drained if I overuse my throat energy. Therefore, to conserve the energy, I speak when I need to and most of the conversation is educational. Now, is that boring? Maybe to some people. I used to have a friend who called me boring because I no longer entertain small talks.

Here Is the Reason Why.

I’m a person who is picky about small talk because I feel that small talk drains my energy, especially I am an Undefined Throat person. I noticed the same patterns in human collective. What I see in many people is, they wasted too much of their energies on unnecessary small talks especially with people they don’t love.

Every single time we talk, energy is used for that matter. By the time they need to get their act done, they have no energy to do so because all of it is wasted on small talk. If we to combine all the small talks in the world, it will be too many noises with only small gap for the Stillness.

Do I Completely Avoid Small Talk?

I love small talks, with people I love and when we have coffee together. I do small talks with my Chiropractor too. And I love to laugh. Any small talks that can make me laugh, I’m on it. I think it is lovely when we do it with people we love. I guess this is what Tribal all about.

There is more to learn about our Throat centre; the source of sounds and door to all manifestation in this world. Everyone is different, and yet it takes same awareness to notice the right timing in communication and manifestation.

These are my small talks for today; chocolate chips cookies dreams, uncut chicken dreams, a selfie in the kitchen and a cat on someone’s head. It is hilarious! And all that gives me some boost to write about this topic.

Now I think it would be great to sit on that couch with a cup of coffee and a box of chocolate chips cookies as a reward for the post. Anyone… wanna join me?

Photo taken at Bangsar Shopping Center.

 

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Struggles are Empowering.

Yesterday was the busiest day so far. I’m currently running three projects. One is under my own company. The other two are for people I work with where my skills are shared as a Personel Manager (Gate 17). Basically, my skills are used for structuring flow for their coaching businesses, seeing their goals, share my perspectives, and doing few other kinds of stuff.

These are one of my best experiences for doing what I love and for the recognitions that others give to me.

All that busyness is flow and support for my education fund and also for the living. Within this busyness, I get to make friends with many people and see their perspectives about Life. And the beauty is I get to experience the value of Awareness in those moments.

I believe everyone has their own struggles. I surely have mine. Born with the channel of Struggle (38-28) in my design; I experience tremendous struggle since I was a kid. What I can tell you is, with struggles, we have the potentials to live our purposes; only if we could remove the negative value from the word ‘Struggle’.

Anyway, that’s one delicious Salted Beef Sandwich I had yesterday at Rubberduck Cafe during work meeting with a friend. It is highly recommended for beef lover.

*Photo was taken at Rubberduck Cafe at Plaza Damas KL.

My day started at 6 am yesterday to attend a class and two meetings in the evening, one report for a client and two naps. Yes! I love my naps :).

Finding Your Root.

What are your roots?

One thing I love about Human Design is it tells you what is the best environment that you can fulfil your purposes. Within these environments, if you live correctly as yourself, you are going to stand out in that environment. You are going to stand strong because you know your root. If you don’t know your root, you become the environment, and nobody can see you because you are living the frequency of the environment.

For example; one of my environments is filled with emotional stuff. That means I can only live my purposes in the presence of emotions; that include emotional pain, dramas, passions, sensuality, sexual, confrontation, traumas and so on.

Imagine what happens if I didn’t live at my own frequency? I surely become the drama and the emotional pain itself and no one could see me or feel my presence. I have no way to be the guide for them.

Ever since I follow my strategy and authority, I stand out more in this environment. I get to be the guide for those who need to feel emotional peace.

My task for this year is to learn about the confrontation that comes from this environment. All I can say that this is just a beginning. I already feel the pressure in many ways :).

Find your roots, know your environment and let your True-Self flowering in this life.

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Let’s Talk About Human Design.

Yesterday someone asked my what do I do as a life coach, so I decided to share this knowledge that I used for my coaching, it’s call Human Design System. Here goes!

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I bet my readers from the Western countries already open to the knowledge of Human Design. For us, in Asian, Human Design is quite new. If I didn’t hang out with my Western friends in the public forum like corefreedom.com, I wouldn’t know such knowledge.

Nevertheless, let’s talk about Human Design. Let’s go the way others didn’t go.

The Energetic Fingerprint.

We all know that our finger prints are different. But when people tell us we all are the same in sense of will power, motivation, behavior, thinking and reaction towards achieving success; we kinda settle for the idea. And because of it, we struggle to be like others. We want to fit in.

The problem about fitting in is, it pulls us away from being our Authentic Self. In order to fit in, one must be completely like the others. Otherwise, we fail to fit in! And we think our problem (when we can’t fit in) is because we are less than others. It’s sad to think that way. Not to mention the struggles and failures!

It all happen because we do not know our Authenticity.

Our finger prints are our Authenticity. We cannot alter it. But finger prints are physical manifestation of our Authentic Self. What about non-physical authenticity? How do we know our differences?

Do You Know Your Authenticity Self?

I’ve been searching for my authenticity for years. First, I know that I’m an Empath. But how I define Empath, energetically? How does Empath actually look like energetically? Then I discovered that I’m intuitive. Which part of me can defined that?

Thanks to Human Design, which I discovered in 2013, lay out a blueprint of my energetic designs. In that chart, I know what I am, what’s my domain personality, how my energy body flows, where it should go, what I shouldn’t do (it is all energetically speaking) and what are my roles in this world? It tells me why I am here and what I can do to live my life to the fullest?

Because of Human Design, I know the Empath trait in me, I found out why I’m intuitive. And I also came to acknowledge why people think I’m kinda annoyed and freak! And I don’t feel sorry for myself anymore. In fact, I’m loving every part of me, from the mind to the Soul.

So long story short, Human Design is a Science of Differentiation between human. The differences can be in many ways and all is shown in a simple Rave Chart (well! It’s not that simple anyway).

What Made Human Design System Mostly Accurate?

Human Design are the combination of modern and traditional knowledge, which consists of Astrology, the Kabbalah, the I`Ching (which the 64 gates come from) and the Chakra System. The part where the modern science came in is the reading of the Genetic Code. You can read more of the explanation in the Internet.

As a human being, we are very complex creature. There is no simple way to explain our being without combination from all aspects including the inner aspect like the genetic codons, the energy body like the aura and the Universe energy like the impact of planets’ energy on us. So, Human Design is a very complex system and yet, it reveals the simplicity of knowing our vessel (the body and its energy) and our Inner Self.

What Human Design Can Tell Us?

If you get your FREE Rave Chart at http://www.jovianarchive.com, you’ll discover basic information about your Type, Profile, Not-Self Theme (in the other words, your dominant setback), Definition, Incarnation Cross and the most important part is your Authority.

Beyond the basic information, you have extra information from the whole chart and it is complex. The chart doesn’t explain everything in detail. You can either read and discover the information through the internet or you can get experts who knows Human Design to explain the chart for you.

Around the whole charts, Human Design can explain two main things about your entire energy system:

  1. The Openness centers. We called it Undefined Centers. These are the centers where you unconsciously live as Not-Self (the conditioned self).
  2. The Defined centers. These are your Authentic energy. You have the access to the energy around the clock. However, we normally unaware of our Define centers because our Openness centers are more overwhelming.

According to this finding, if we don’t know this knowledge, we might life our whole life through the conditioned self and thinking that’s who we are!

But is knowing this important?

It depends.

  1. People who are successful, doesn’t really go and find out their Human Design. That is because they already live their Authenticity Self in the first place. Human Design is just a platform that provides us the structured information about our Authenticity.
  2. If you are a Projector, it is essential that you learn about your signature. For some reasons, Projectors are those who always live as somebody else, they are the failures ones and they get sick before the age of 40s (I got sick by age 32).
  3. If you are the Manifestor, you should know how to control your thoughts.

The rest, I feel it is important for you to know who you are. What you will do with the information is up to you.

Is This What I Am? Does This Design Change from Time to Time?

This is your energetic signature. Just like your finger prints, it doesn’t change until you die (I was looking for politer word but naaah!). It says that if you experience Near Death or if you practice meditation for more than 30 years, it might change. But there’s not many information to explain in detail. So intuitively, I feel that the changes might happen on the gates.

Will You Like Your Design?

This is funny. The first time I came to know that I’m a Projector, I feel so down and frustrated. Hey! I run a business. I have a lot of ideas how to be successful. But Human Design says, I have to wait for the invitation! How could I wait?! I was screaming inside my head and I tried to convince myself that whatever Human Design was saying is a total crap!

Not long after that I found another article says that I need to sleep alone! I was having difficulties sleeping alone because I was afraid of darkness. I had nightmares! The first few weeks, knowing Human Design is a mood killer.

Then I saw the beauty in it. The clarity of Who I Am. The understanding of my flow and why I always imitate others. And I fall in love.

What is The Most Precious Information I Found About Myself?

All pieces of information are important for you. In my case, the most precious is knowing I’m on the right path. I started Your Personal Motivator coaching service because I love to help people. Turn out my chart revealed that would be an ideal path for me. Other than that, would be knowing my intuition channel, which lies in gate 57. And the chart also explain why I can see patterns and tap into insightful knowledge and how to share it with the world.

If you ever find out your Human Design, pay attention to the Strategy and Authority first. Live by that Design!

Friction is an Art of Bonding.

There are so many ways where love comes around and relationships are built. Sometimes it comes around in some unexpected ways. It is illogical to say that relation could grow beautifully through a healthy confrontation, friction and tension. Process like this comes around, not just to test the strength of the relationship but bring up the growth through the friction.

First, let’s learn about friction because it is the door to passionate love and confrontation. We can learn about friction from the nature first. Before the plants can grow, the seeds will go through the friction, so it can emerge from underneath the soil. The plants within its intelligence knew that to survive, it must get the sunlight. Farmers musts wait for the seeds to turn into sprouts itself.

The seeds must go through friction itself. All plants and flowers that we see around us went through some friction, just to exist beautifully in this world.

In human, friction happens in many ways. When two people wanting to know each other, our auric field will go through friction. The process is expressed through our behaviours and communication.

Try observing people who are in love and look at the way they are flirting. That is some form of friction. When one auric field wanting to co-exist in the same space with another auric field, we get friction. After all, we are energies in motion. Friction is inevitable.

Friction is an art of Bonding. Without friction, we have no interest to bond with others. We don’t have to learn about it. It comes naturally when our auric field in contact with others. Flirting is just one aspect of friction.

There are many more types of friction that can be expressed through individual behaviour. For example; if you see two people arguing, that is a friction too. Without it, there is no growth in human relationship. Just like the seeds.

The Glimpse of Inner Peace in the Speck of Dusts.

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Do you want to know how does Being in the Now feels like? Thanks to cinematography, we can catch the glimpse of how being in the Now looks like. Before that, I want you to understand three things.

  • First, whatever that you see in the movies, that is just a tiny glimpse of eternity. Movies can only narrow down specific aspect of the Now but it can never replace the actually feeling of being in the Now.
  • Second, most of the movies take us away from the Now. It drawn at least two of our senses (sight and hearing) away from being aware of the Now. However, there are movies that carry the message of Being in the Now and I’m going to name one of the movie.
  • Third, you may want to consider that The Now is not entirely time base. And it is not a concept too. The Now is the door to Inner Peace.

If you read the book The Power of Now, then this is easy for you to grasp the essence of being Presence totally in the Now. Slowly it is not difficult for you to taste the glimpse of Inner Peace. However, if you haven’t read this book, then you can mentally understand The Now through certain movies.

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Microscopic of Dusts on the Big Screen.

Do you remember a movie called After Earth? There’s a scene where Kitai (played by Jaden Smith) lied down on the ground and facing his fear. He then became so presence in the moment where his fear dissolved, and his awareness are able to focus on little things like dusts floating in the air. The dusts are so vividly dancing in the air. The color (if I remember correctly) were gloomy and yet the cinematography brought up the moment of peace through Kitai’s breathing.

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And that’s the part I remembered because it gives the glimpse of inner peace. And I could say that because when we are in the Now moments, everything we see, touch, hear, smell and taste become vividly alive. That aliveness is Inner Peace.

Although what we see in the movie may not even accurately portray ‘moment of now’, but intellectually we see the fragment of Inner peace and also the glimpse of living without fear.

Fear Cannot Survive in the Now.

Why are we relating fear with being in the Now? In the After Earth, the reason Ursa cannot sense the presence of General Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith) is because Cypher Raige is being totally presence in the Now where fear in this system is dissolved.

Whether we realise it or not, we are caught in a web of fear; mostly created through our mind. That increases the state of anxiety in us. To reduce the anxiety is to reduce the mental fear. It takes practise to face fear by being in the now. This can be done by shifting our focus to our body and breathe the moment. This can be the most boring activity to our mind but not to our Awareness, certainly not to our body. This is also a form of meditation.

Remember that fear cannot consume you when you are fully presence. Fear cannot kill you when you are at peace with your Self. Anxiety is a by-product of mental fear. Therefore, don’t fight the anxiety. Don’t fight the fear too. Instead be gentle to what you feel and be presence in feeling the fear.

I’ve been practising to be in the Now moment from time to time. All I can say is, fear is not longer a mental torture for me. Instead, fear serve its purpose for my survival in the correct way. I enjoy my moments where I can feel the aliveness in the blades of grass, the dancing dusts in the air and many more.

If you want to experience Aliveness, Joy and Inner Peace, the only way to do it is to be presence in the Now. If you think the glimpse of Inner Peace in After Earth looked stunning and beautiful, wait until you experience the real Inner Peace in you.

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The Beauty of Correct Struggle

There is an aspect of struggle in our individual process. Everyone without exception; has our moments of struggle. This struggle is meant to be transmuted into empowerment; provided we choose the right struggles.

For Projector, an invitation into a right struggle can change his/her entire life. Same goes for Generator, MG, Manifestor and Reflector. When you respond to the right struggle (e.g Generator), this energy will drive you towards your purposes. Other than that, it just going to be an endless struggle of frustration, bitterness, anger and disappointment.

The Channel of Struggle (A Design of Stubbornness) resides in two gates. Gate 38; the gate of a fighter where it has the drives to be the warrior of ‘its way’. When meeting up the gate 28; the risk taker, we are going to have the potential awareness of our purposes and fights. Without one of it, the struggle is incomplete for transmutation and empowerment. And yet, all of us has our chance to transform the struggle.

Struggles - Which One Do You Choose

The Duality of Struggle. Photo by Rose Osman. Location IKANO

 

This week can be tough because Gate 38 is having its pressure. The Tension we feel in the air is the pressure fighting for purposes. This is also an opportunity to start reflecting whether this struggle that we are facing is the right ones for us. If any of this struggles bring out the not-self theme (anger, bitterness, frustration, disappointment), then be conscious that this struggle is not serving our purposes.

Be kind to yourself, to your body this week and be kind to others. Everyone is fighting their own struggles and mostly through the conditioning of Not-Self. Embrace your struggles, let go the one that doesn’t serve you good and get ready to be showered with transformation in the next few days.

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The Passenger, The Driver and The Vehicle – Who Is Incharge?

It’s a powerful illustration here. We are the passenger of consciousness. What it means here is we have no choice on how Life flow and play through us. All we can do is becoming conscious of each flow. Remember that the good and bad is how our mind labels it. The is a reason for the label and judgement but do not settle for just this or that.

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Carrying The Vehicle? Credit to the artist.

A passenger needs a driver. Our driver is the magnetic monopole that resides in our G Center (sternum area – Gate 2-the direction of Self). Magnetic monopole drives us along our specific geometry; not others. Each geometry will cross path with the others. If we live correctly through strategy and authority, we have the awareness to discern who are the right people that cross path our geometry. The rest is just background and stages.

The car you see is our unconscious body; our vehicle. To live in the 3D dimension is to agree to the law of matter, which the body comes as a package. In 3D dimension, time and direction are part of the law. The body gives us the capacity to move in space within this dimension. So every single decision we made, we are moving from one point to another. Even at the cellular level, every decision we made, the cells, the electricity, the electromagnetic, the fluid in our body moves. Imagine when we choose to be with people we shouldn’t be or choose to be in a wrong environment..the whole effects of the direction itself could result in disaster.

The body (the vehicle) is always ready and are doing its job based on what is given through genetic imprint during our birth. Magnetic monopole knows because there is a force pull it along the geometry. So what causes us all the chaos in life?

The personality, the unconscious mind that creates the Not-Self in us. The mind thinks it can control the life and when it lost the control, it blames, it project faults on others and so on. Human Design original context is written to make us aware of our Not Self and the mind doesn’t like that. The mind doesn’t want us to know that it cannot govern our life and body. The mind is designed to inspire and to be concepts for others. Never to use on ourselves.

Open Centers Keynotes.

Credit fo Jovian Archive Media Inc. Original photo here https://www.jovianarchive.com/Human_Design/The_Chart_and_BodyGraph/Centers

Let go the need to control the body and surrender as a passenger. Instead of trying to be the driver that doesn’t know how or where to drive, be a conscious passenger who learns to enjoy every ride. The magic of surrendering only can be seen when the passenger is relaxed and let go the need to control.

If you desire to change the world, begin with yourself. An awaken manifestor could change the collective from anger to peace. An awaken generator and MG could change the consciousness field into satisfaction. Imagine, would people begin war if they feel satisfied with Life? An awaken projector and reflector could change the entire collective energy especially in guiding the energy. Follow your strategy and authority and see how it can transform your life, spirituality and mind. Let go the need to make decisions with the mind and it will release the burden that our brain feel.

And remember that the mind can do so much (no doubt) but everything is manifesting through our body until we leave this dimension of matter.

So yeah, we stuck in this no-choice body, no-choice genetic rules, no-choice because all are governed by laws of the universe. What do we do?

We surrender.

 

 

Lesson of Letting Go from the Cats – Our Zen Masters

This is a story that happened about 2 months ago.

“Adopter wants to take Oren tonight instead of tomorrow. I can tell you how attachment feels like. It makes my heart feel heavy to let go.
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So let’s talk about attachment. We build this feeling everyday to people we love, to our pets, to our materials. Is this love? This is human love. There is a thin line between love and the urge to possess. Attachment that turns into possession is one form of suffering.

Attachment serve its purposes to connect us, at least to average human who have not yet enlighten (including me). And we know better. When we couldn’t let go; we suffer.

At first I said no to adoption tonight and thinking that I do better tomorrow. Then I took a moment to understand this feeling better. Oren, Cerah (means Bright) and Melancholy (these are the cats names) are the expression of Consciousness. If you like to relate to God, they are a fragment of God’s essence of Love. Through them we can see how Life being playful, how life creates balance and so much more to learn. Most important is; through them we get to see ourselves better.
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Attachment happens. We are just human. What we can do best is acknowledge the attachments. And when time comes to let go; do it with Love so suffering don’t consume our heart and Soul.

So I already gave my kisses to Oren. And I asked the mama cat (Melancholy) and Cerah to be ready to let go. Surprisingly Melancholy walked us to the gate and when Oren left, she walked back to Cerah.
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This Love feels like heaven. Eckhart Tolle was right. They are great Zen Masters. We are blessed to host them even just for a while. To our adopters, Thank you.”

Thank you for letting me put the words here.
Good night.

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The Art of Giving Back

Healing anxiety and depression is going to take time unless you are the chosen one who is going to experience a leap of consciousness. For many people, healing happen gracefully, day to day basis. Just like waiting for a plant to grow. The process seems slow to the mind, but the life force energy can be felt if we pay attention to it. Same goes with healing in our body. Feel it and acknowledge it.

One of the healing steps I teach for Anxiety and Depression is Giving Back. The process is to train your body and mind to connect with others who need your contribution. Instead of becoming the victim of Anxiety and Depression, you become the healer who gives. You heal yourself in the giving process.

Giving back promotes the growth in Life. Giving back allows energy to flow in and out of you in harmony. Whenever you give-back, do it consciously. It can heals you.

Photo taken by: Joe Lai