This is very interesting subject to express in the blog. The reason is I took weeks to go through the lessons too. Dealing with ego mind can drained the energy and cause us emotionally and mentally tired. I have been through that for weeks and then I realise this; all of us took years to just understand ‘Why we have these people in our lives?’. Although we know that everyone is a teacher and if they didn’t teach us beautiful experiences, they teach us the ugly ones. But that’s not the salvation. We didn’t stop experiencing ugly moments in life even after we knew the answer. And it keeps coming back to us, isn’t it? So answering the question is not the solution here.
Egomaniac people (the term is just for the article only) are people who unconsciously run their lives through their ego minds. They (the people) are the passenger and the driver is the ego mind. They go where the ego mind takes them, which against their free spirit. You can see there are many people still stuck in their ego minds, and that including me and you. We have been generalized into ego being. Although the consciousness is rising and there are many people are now practise to be present and allow the ego minds to lose its control, there are also people who still hasn’t aware. And these are the people who appear in our presence for many reasons and one of it is to get touch with the light of consciousness that we bring into this world.
The ultimate way to face the egomaniac people is to be present, be in the state of love. That also the easiest way but not many people understand the concept of Just It. So I’m going to share with you the practical ways to face the egomaniac people so you didn’t get caught in the dramas and hopefully in the same time shed some light into their beings with love.
Here’s the ugly truth. When we are dealing with war between egos, nobody wins. The energy of the war itself is use to feed the egos and we end up in emotional pain. But in moments like this (the war), we are so tempted to be heard, we are so eager to explain the ‘truth’ of ourselves but war means no explanation needed.
So the best way to deal with it is just give short respond to the person. And from my experiences, I just responded “okay” or “alright”. Then I leave before my ego mind takes the driver seat.
Avoid their games.
The ego always wanted to be feed. It creates situations so it can be feed and rises. Take a moment to observe egomaniac people; you will notice that they always find ways to create situations that can feed their egos. They complaints and give reasons that others created the situations (mostly problems) and they are the solutions. Take note how the wars in this world started. If you notice their game, avoid playing it. Walk away if you can but if that’s not the choice, just observe it without judgement. That way you wouldn’t fall into the unconscious ego game they created.
This is the gate to the ultimate way; being present. Breathe as if the only way to stay alive is to stay aware that you are breathing. No thinking by doing that. Just breathe. Go inward with the miracle healing of air and oxygen. And then in between you and the other person is a space for transformation to take place. There was a time when I did this; I noticed the breathing of the said person become aligned with mine, in same beat and harmony. Then the person no longer feel trapped in his own unconscious mind. That’s how we can help ourselves and let the transformation and the light of consciousness help the other person.
If you read the book The Power of Now, you would familiar with ‘Be Transparent’. But it takes lots of practise to be transparent. Transparent in this context is not related to honesty. It’s something like soul, transparent. It’s something like clear water where you can see what’s inside it. If you can see aura, you only see the transparent colour(s). Do notice that you can also see whatever things behind the aura, the visible things. That’s what it means by being transparent. This method, whatever is coming onto you will not hit you because there is no wall to hit. It then will go through you; just like your sight go through the aura, the soul (that’s including spirits) and water.
Most important point here is not to fall into the unconscious ego mind that you have in you. That’s the whole point of this article. It’s not about changing the egomaniac people and forces them to surrender their ego mind. That’s not our job. This practical ways is about saving ourselves so that we do not stop rising our consciousness from day to day. The rest will be taken care just the way it is.