How to Respond to Egomaniac People?

This is very interesting subject to express in the blog. The reason is I took weeks to go through the lessons too. Dealing with ego mind can drained the energy and cause us emotionally and mentally tired. I have been through that for weeks and then I realise this; all of us took years to just understand ‘Why we have these people in our lives?’. Although we know that everyone is a teacher and if they didn’t teach us beautiful experiences, they teach us the ugly ones. But that’s not the salvation. We didn’t stop experiencing ugly moments in life even after we knew the answer. And it keeps coming back to us, isn’t it? So answering the question is not the solution here.

Egomaniac people (the term is just for the article only) are people who unconsciously run their lives through their ego minds. They (the people) are the passenger and the driver is the ego mind. They go where the ego mind takes them, which against their free spirit. You can see there are many people still stuck in their ego minds, and that including me and you. We have been generalized into ego being. Although the consciousness is rising and there are many people are now practise to be present and allow the ego minds to lose its control, there are also people who still hasn’t aware. And these are the people who appear in our presence for many reasons and one of it is to get touch with the light of consciousness that we bring into this world.

The ultimate way to face the egomaniac people is to be present, be in the state of love. That also the easiest way but not many people understand the concept of Just It. So I’m going to share with you the practical ways to face the egomaniac people so you didn’t get caught in the dramas and hopefully in the same time shed some light into their beings with love.

Short respond.

Here’s the ugly truth. When we are dealing with war between egos, nobody wins. The energy of the war itself is use to feed the egos and we end up in emotional pain. But in moments like this (the war), we are so tempted to be heard, we are so eager to explain the ‘truth’ of ourselves but war means no explanation needed.

So the best way to deal with it is just give short respond to the person. And from my experiences, I just responded “okay” or “alright”. Then I leave before my ego mind takes the driver seat.

Avoid their games.

The ego always wanted to be feed. It creates situations so it can be feed and rises. Take a moment to observe egomaniac people; you will notice that they always find ways to create situations that can feed their egos. They complaints and give reasons that others created the situations (mostly problems) and they are the solutions. Take note how the wars in this world started. If you notice their game, avoid playing it. Walk away if you can but if that’s not the choice, just observe it without judgement. That way you wouldn’t fall into the unconscious ego game they created.

Why Play Game That You Will Lose?

Why Play Game That You Will Lose?

Breathe Consciously.

This is the gate to the ultimate way; being present. Breathe as if the only way to stay alive is to stay aware that you are breathing. No thinking by doing that. Just breathe. Go inward with the miracle healing of air and oxygen. And then in between you and the other person is a space for transformation to take place. There was a time when I did this; I noticed the breathing of the said person become aligned with mine, in same beat and harmony. Then the person no longer feel trapped in his own unconscious mind. That’s how we can help ourselves and let the transformation and the light of consciousness help the other person.

Be Transparent.

If you read the book The Power of Now, you would familiar with ‘Be Transparent’. But it takes lots of practise to be transparent. Transparent in this context is not related to honesty. It’s something like soul, transparent. It’s something like clear water where you can see what’s inside it. If you can see aura, you only see the transparent colour(s). Do notice that you can also see whatever things behind the aura, the visible things. That’s what it means by being transparent. This method, whatever is coming onto you will not hit you because there is no wall to hit. It then will go through you; just like your sight go through the aura, the soul (that’s including spirits) and water.

Most important point here is not to fall into the unconscious ego mind that you have in you. That’s the whole point of this article. It’s not about changing the egomaniac people and forces them to surrender their ego mind. That’s not our job. This practical ways is about saving ourselves so that we do not stop rising our consciousness from day to day. The rest will be taken care just the way it is.

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Why People Afraid of Changes?

“Change is hardest at the beginning. Messiest in the middle. And best at the end” – Robin Sharma

Throughout these many years, I’ve seen many changes in my life. Somehow, many are still in the process. Robin Sharma was right about the change and I admitted that certain parts of my changes are still at the messiest stage. My beginning was a lost direction. I know my destination but along the way, I tend to lose the direction. It was hard, undeniable but it’s achievable. I have achieved many things since I quit my job and I taste the best at the end of my journey.

Any person who have changed will say the same thing, it always the hardest at the beginning. Look at drug addicts who want to change and be cleaned from drugs. Look at people who quit their jobs and started their own businesses. Nothing is easy in the beginning. It takes great force to push a ball and make it roll by itself later. The great force is always the hardest.

Many people refuse changes because of it. They didn’t find or they didn’t understand the great force in them. Here is another list of reasons why many people refuse to change their lives and pursuing their dreams…and of course I also mean people who realize they need changes but they were too afraid to make one.

  • Egocentric – Basically ego doesn’t want us to live on somebody else idea. Ego doesn’t want us to change because somebody says “you need to change your life to something better”. People who are egocentric will always respond; “I prefer to stay like this because I don’t want to give so much hope that in the end, I’ll get frustrated and hurt if things doesn’t work out the way I want”. But think again, who actually hurts? The ego or the person?
  • Afraid of the unknown – Future is always an unknown element, but we are still getting there, didn’t we? If many people realize this, they will not be afraid to achieve the dreams and life they want. The unknown doesn’t mean dark and empty. The unknown always comes with great experiences and goldmine for people who are not afraid of it.
  • Trust Yourself Because It’s Essential in Life

    Lack of self-trust – Many people trust others more than themselves. We spend lots of time for others and TV and these are the times that we lost on building trust in ourselves. Why self-trust is so important? First, who would you trust to give you the great life and great wealth if not yourself? Second, the great force that started the ball to roll is the self-trust.

  • Limited knowledge – Many people claim that they have no enough knowledge to pursue their dreams. The fact is knowledge didn’t go into our brains in one night. Knowledge is something we get from time to time. Knowledge never stops coming into our lives. If we want to wait for the ‘enough knowledge’ in order to start pursuing our dreams, we will never reach any dreams at all. From my experiences, get the basic knowledge about the dream and the great life that you want to pursue. The basic will help you from drowning. The rest, you will learn throughout the journey.
  • Care on people thoughts – Many people care so much on what others think about their dreams. When I decided to quit my job and pursuing my dreams, few people criticized me. Of course, they were talking about the reality checks while I was talking about achieving my dreams. I don’t blame them for their opinions. Whether reality hurts or otherwise, it is always up to us to see the way we want it.

The Quote Says It All

If you find the right path in your life and you realize that only changes would help you achieve your dreams and great life, DO IT.

Don’t doubt, don’t listen to critics and don’t judge your dreams. List down your risks and gather your life gears. It will get messy from time to time. No dreams are easily achieved and it happens that way so we could taste the best when we reach at the destination of our dreams.