How to Deal with Thoughts of Failure?

Go make mistakes today.

The first response you will get for yourself is FEAR. A sign your ego is at its defense ‘you cannot make mistakes because mistake is humiliating. You cannot fail because failure is humiliating’. Let the thought be. Acknowledge it but do not give energy to it. Do not analyze how far the future mistakes and failures would be. Don’t think further than the first thought.
This can stop the fear of failure from growing as a feeling, where it will let you sail with your unconscious belief that you can never achieve success in your life. If you sail together with these thoughts of failure far from your consciousness and far away from your awareness, you have already failed in reality.

Then make your first step, an opposite step of failure; a successful step. This is a crucial step because to do the opposite of failure is already a success. This success is far greater than the one you imagine would happen in the future because it heals the fear of failure in you in an instant. And because it increases your self-esteem one strength at the time.

Never fear failure because failure and success are equally divided. If you are making a success, you must expect failures. Likewise, if you are making failures, you must expect success. Both successes and failures draw each other closer. When you think of success, your mind draws the thought of failure too. When you think of failure, your mind draws the thought of success for you. It is not the success or failure that brings the fear in you but the conflict you have when these two entities draw each other. So it is important to aware that this is just your mind bring balance for you.

And for the third step, practice surrender. Sometimes thoughts can go wild on making you feel like a failure. Whatever you are thinking in your mind, ALWAYS trust your feeling, intuition, guts, God; that whatever failures you are experiencing, it is happening to MAKE YOU A SUCCESSFUL PERSON.

Now take a deep breath and get ready to make mistakes and face failures. Learn and forgive yourself along the journey. And see what is unfolding for you.

If you are making mistakes

If you are making mistakes

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Light: Between Us and Sunlight

Do you know that Sunlight takes around 8 minutes 20 seconds to reach the Earth?
The truth is even the biggest source of lights take that long to spread its light to the planet, therefore our lights that reach peoples’ hearts might take longer than that. Be patience in spreading your love and lights to others.

Spreading light

The Lesson of Intuition and Happiness

One of the many things I’ve learned (still learning) is about listening to my intuition. It is one of many gifts given by The Almighty to us. Intuition is there not to appear as right or wrong (although we use these terms a lot), but rather to appear as a significant signs about what is coming, aligning, approaching or attaching to our being. What is appear to be right or wrong is just how we perceive it. After all, right or wrong is just another lesson to learn.

I remember she read this book. I don't exactly remember the author or the book title but I remember the cartoon.

I remember she read this book. I don’t exactly remember the author or the book title but I remember the cartoon.

So today I had opportunity to listen when my intuition was talking to me. The earlier plan I had was to drive back home from the hospital and not to stop by at any shopping malls. However, it didn’t happen the way I planned it because few hundred meter from a shopping mall, I had a huge attraction to visit a book store located in the mall. What I did was; I listened to my intuition.

About less than 30 minutes, I reached the book store and started to look for Reiki Healing book. I couldn’t find the book I want so I decided to ask the customer services and I found the reason I was there.

It was not the book I’m looking for but it was my long lost friend. She stood there screaming my name and I responded by screaming her name! The last time I saw her was in 1999. I told her that she kept coming into my thoughts recently and I do wish and imagine that I meet her again. Not just that, I explained the belief she has about happiness back in 1998 sounded crap to me at that time but now I was doing the same thing she did in 1998. I valued the experiences that I had with her even we are just a friend. I saw how she built her happiness from a book by Andrew Matthews. I witnessed her morning routine (exercise and jogging). I stared at her when she talked about happiness. Oh yes, once upon a time, I was very ordinary and skeptical about people being happy.

I’m glad that I found her. I hope she forgive me for being a skeptic before. As I always say, everyone we meet is a teacher. She was a teacher to me back in 1998/99 and she is a teacher to me today. The lesson I’ve learned from her is be happy, the rest is just life.

When Balance Finds You

Since 2012, every event that occurred in my life have taught me lessons and helped me growth beautifully from inside. I’ve learned that love is not something we get but it is something we give unconditionally. It becomes a practice to me and I must admit, it is not easy to give love especially in the most inconvenient situations like arguments. So practice made perfect.

God always have better plans for us and I do believe that. First He taught me to learn to Love myself and my own body. In that period, I discover that every human has a power of healing provided they allow the healing process to take place. Then He taught me to love people through healing process. Since then, I started to discover my potentials and gifts but I wasn’t entirely sure about it. So He sent me people who came into my life and shared with me their experiences. Not just that, they were the ones who pointed out my potentials as a natural healer.

I pondered few times about being a healer, regardless naturally or otherwise and I noticed that many people have turned to be healers. The question is why? What is happening and why people suddenly changed their paths to be healers? After a while, the answer came (check out the poster below).

Love is indeed a healing factor itself. It all started when Love arises in me and I felt the balance of life deep within. It just a matter of how to live the balance after so many attachments I have in my life. Once the balance set it, many things came along including love, wealth, health and more. Balance is something we cannot run away from it and it is a MUST to learn how to live with it. So when balance finds you, get ready mentally, emotionally and spiritually because your life is turning beautifully as it should.

Since I have learned Usui Reiki, I’m going to give systematic healing and guide people to stay balance in their life with Love. And this is me coming back to the business with more systematic ways. Hello to you again and the sun is shining now. I promised myself to come out and play and here I am now ready to guide you with beautiful programs and live life wealthy, healthy and in beautiful loving ways.

Please refer the changes made here.

Be The Balance Factor With Love

Be The Balance Factor With Love

Five Powerful Cleansing Phrases

I wrote this statement in my Yahoo Messenger since two weeks ago and I got many responded from people in the list. Most of the respond were curious about my life. Only one asked me directly “What’s with the status?”

The status goes like this:

I love you. I forgive you. Please forgive me. I am sorry and Thank you.

I love when people curious about these phrases and I explained to them that these are cleansing phrases. These five phrases are commonly use in daily life but many do not aware that these phrases has cleansing power. It cleanses ourselves from the unnecessary thoughts that we restore inside our mind especially our subconscious minds. In another article, it says that:

“You clean yourself from subconscious garbage – programs that run your life without your participation”- Read more here.

This cleansing technique called Ho’oponopono, started in Hawaii, founded by Morrnah Nalamaku Simeon and documented for healing proof by Dr. Hew Len, her student.

How Ho’oponopono actually work?

Dr.Ihaleakala Hew Len

Dr.Ihaleakala Hew Len

Everything in our lives was partly created by us. The creation is not just with our hands and actions but also with our minds. Everything started with our minds. Take a quick moment and check out what were the last things we have in our minds? A world peace? A meal? A solution to confrontation? A gift for the lover? A happy family? A prepared dialogue for argument? Jealousy thoughts? These thoughts and many other thoughts were sent out to the Universe and in the creation process instantly.

According to Dr. Hew Len, who have managed to heal violence patients in Hawaii State Hospital described that he do not heal them, instead he healed part of himself that created them (the patients).

Ho’oponopono and Healing

I practice Ho’oponopono everyday especially at night. Sometimes I just do the cleansing generally but sometimes I specifically focus on a thing. When I dealt with my fear and anger, I specifically use Ho’oponopono to cleanse the relationship, the situation and myself that relate to fear and anger.  Over the time, it has helped me reduce the intensity that fear and anger have towards me. It also help me to cleanse the unnecessary thoughts of anger and fear in this now moment (that I might now aware of it), so it would not emerge uncontrollably in my reality later.

When a person takes responsibility in his creation and aware that as a human, he would not be able to run away from destructive thoughts, Ho’oponopono is one of the best cleansing techniques a human could give to himself and to the rest of the world.

And here’s the best part of Ho’oponopono, it didn’t require meditation or specific ritual to cleanse our minds. It also didn’t tie to any religion specifically. These five phrases can be used anywhere, everywhere, to any situation we like, to people we love or dislike and use it for love. All we need to do is to repeat these phrases many times (many times = mantra).

  • I love you
  • I forgive you
  • Please forgive me
  • I am sorry
  • Thank you

Five beautiful phrases and yet contains powerful love and cleansing materials. Take responsibility that we are creating the life and the world. Put our egos aside, surrender ourselves to God and cleanse ourselves with love. Last, belief that the world and life that comes to us would be better, beautiful and cleaner than before.

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Some practice indicated that only four phrases require for cleansing (all above except I forgive you) but some practice indicated that I forgive you is one of the cleansing too, especially in cleansing our egos.

Hooponopono Cleansing

Hooponopono Cleansing

The Beauty of Help

Help is simply means giving. Help is the fastest way to build relationship between yourself and others.  Helping others is like building the bridge that connects us to the things we like and we want.

Here’s are the beauties of helping others regardless human, animals or the rest of the world.

  1. If you help people achieve their dreams, your dream runs to you.
  2. If you help people walk out from poverty, wealth will storm into your life.
  3. If you help people overcome their fear with love, braveness is your legacy.
  4. If you help people understand the value of forgiveness, hate stays away from you.
  5. If you help people find love, love will always find you.
  6. If you help people outgrowth happiness in their lives, happiness is growing a life in you.
  7. If you help people build success from their failures, success growth from your failures.
  8. If you help people and environment stay clean, beauty and health live in you.
  9. If you help people expand their knowledge, knowledge is expanding in your mind.
  10. If you help people find lights, darkness stays absent from your life.

There are always opportunities to help people, animal and the rest of the world around you. So give help to whoever you can without question their backgrounds, colours, mentalities and personalities because help is also means giving love to the world.

Hand Reaching for Hand

Stranger’s Affect

Read through this and find your place as a Stranger in people lives.

I was sipping my coffee when a stranger asked, “How can I make impact to the world when I’m just a clerk?”

“What kind of impact are we talking here?” I asked and she paused. Then she shrugged.

“What is world mean to you?” I changed the question to divide her attention into two areas – The best way to change the world and who she could do it as. She took moments before she replied…

“People”

I looked around and she mirrored me. She looked puzzle by my action. I moved my index finger around and said “In that case, this is the world” and I smiled. She looked around again.

“Let say ball represent transformation of love, good thoughts and good deeds. If you cannot pass a big ball to these people in one go, pass a small one. One ball to each person here. When they get the balls from you, they will remember you as a person who passes them a ball. They will remember you because it’s personal. That, in many ways is the most effective way to change the world. A person at one time” I explained.

A Clerk with Files

A Clerk with Files

“But I’m just a clerk. Would people listen to me?” She asked.

“What’s your working hour?” 

“Nine to five” She replied short.

“Do you do filing after five?” 

“No”

“So what are you after five?” I asked her. She paused again.

“When you want to do good deed, do it as YOU. Never do it as a Manager or a Politician or a Millionaire or a Clerk. When you do it in the name of the title, you earn nothing. After all, when you do it as a person who has titles, you are no longer a stranger” I told her softly.

“So being a stranger is important?” She asked.

I nodded. “Which one of these two people will make you feel uplift when they told you that you have shining hair? Your friend or a stranger?”

“A stranger”

“Why?” I asked.

Because if he mentions it, that means he really noticed my hair She said.

“Indeed! I called it Stranger’s Affect. The memorable simple transformation and uplift moments are always from strangers. Small but memorable”

Make a Different 

Talking to the Stranger

Talking to the Stranger

Everyone and anyone can make different and change the world. As long we pass the love, good thoughts, good deeds and positive transformation, we are making different and change the world.

You can change the world and start small by helping people around you to transform. Small things affect the most because it’s personal. Make them realize that they are part of the beautiful world. No one is left behind. Everyone is here because it completes the beauty in the world. Say nicest things to the strangers you meet. Greet them with your happy tone. Love them as part of the beauty world.

Be the stranger and the affects to the world are greater. Most important thing is, strangers transform the world because they just want to share their good thoughts, loves and good deeds.  Simply pure sharing and no recognition involves (which make the good thoughts, loves and good deeds circle faster)

So that’s how it goes. The best way to change the world is one person at the time. When you can’t do it as a family or a friend to everyone, do it as a stranger then.

Right before she left, she smiled and said…“…and today I found my stranger. Thank you”