Wisdom from Our Elders

LOL. This made me laugh.

Creative title, and it’s true.

Live moment by moment and let the body age gracefully.

Slowly the numbers doesn’t bother us anymore.

And for what it’s worth, I feel that the F words are sexy.

F referring to the age Forties and Fifties.

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Do What We LOVE!

Work is also a prayer, not in the form of words but actions. When we love what we do, the doing become a meditation, the mind becomes creative, and the body become joyful.

But when we do not love the work we do, then the prayer is filled with un-love energies, the action is not powerful, and the body becomes weak and ill.

Do what you love. Start with that. Then the doing becomes natural and full of Love. It is one way to cherish yourself and honour your purposes. And through the doing, you get to share your deepest Love with the world.

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The Unusual Meditation and Healing

It was a rainy night. The night breeze dancing softly throughout the spaces. I stood in front of the bird nest. There was a tiny mother bird in the nest with her two babies. The surrounding was quiet. I stood there for more than five minutes to observe the life of this beautiful creature.

They were quiet. Only sometimes, I could hear the babies were chipping with their soft tiny voices. One of the babies rested her head beside her mother. It was a beautiful scene.

Whenever the breeze reached the nest, it will swing slightly to the left and right, and yet the birds didn’t show any sign of worries or panic. The mother will close her eyes and feel the breeze. She only opened when there was any movement around her. I observed them with my body and feeling but not with my mind.

In silence, peace rose in me. The life of the birds was simple. In the silence and rainy night, they cuddle with love. No complaint. No worries. Only peace.

After I’ve done observing them, I said “Good night housemate. Thank you and I love you” (yes they’ve become the housemate and we are developing some kind of friendship these days). If you wonder why I thanked them; there are few reasons why:

First, they have helped me with my inner peace and joy. They also have helped me on healing by bring up the peace in me. The best part was they helped me strengthen up my senses as an Empath and understand energy through emotions and vibrations of sounds. They simply helped me Meditate. They have become my teachers; tiny in sizes but not in lessons.

If you have problem with the usual meditation, try something like this. I meditate this way quite often. I love what the nature have for us. Sometimes it only took me 5 to 10 minutes. Just observe your nature; birds, your pets like dog or cat, caterpillar, plants or trees. Observe it with your feeling and not with your mind (to avoid judgement and analyze). Observe it in silence as it bring out the peace in you. The peace is already there inside you and these beautiful creatures and nature can help you unleash it to the surface. And this peace can help you on healing especially emotion healing, anger, anxiety and depression.

The Peaceful Life of Beautiful Creature

The Peaceful Life of Beautiful Creature

Here We Are, Survived.

I hope it is not too late to wish all my readers a Merry Christmas. I was away for a while. Taking moments to plan for the next year journey, to reflect this year’s success (which I will write about it before the end of 2012) and also to take some time to rest. Things around us have been tough in terms of energy and everyone is feeling it in their mind, their emotions and physical. No exception including myself. So I decided to give me a good rest.

But I never forget that all of YOU are my greatest readers. Although this blog didn’t reach hundreds or thousands of readers on a daily basis yet (the highest was 166 visitors in March), but this blog has helped some people change their lives, mindset and also restore harmony in their relationships. YOU made that happened. For that, I feel thankful.

Some of my clients receive the Chirstmas E-Card via their emails. I am happy to share it with all of YOU too. So to all of YOU, especially those who celebrated Christmas, Merry Christmas to you. Thank you for your support and time. Stay close for more articles before we reach the end of 2012.

Merry Christmas 2012

Merry Christmas 2012

The Reversi Game of Life

Life is always hard on us. I agree with the statement and many people do too. But why life is hard on us? If life is so beautiful, why life treats us ‘ugly’? The reason is; to teach us act the opposite acts. If you are:

  • Feeling weak; get up to prove your strengths.
  • Feeling lost; keep moving and ask for direction because new direction is unfolding before you.
  • Feeling empty; fill yourself with love. Not people. Certainly not any materials.
  • Feeling hatred; fill your own self with forgiveness.
  • Feeling lack;, fill yourself with gratitude.
  • Feeling busy; learn to manage time.
  • Emotionally mess; list it on paper. An act of listing ‘cure’ messiness.
  • Feeling sad; fill yourself with patience.
  • Feeling pain; allow healing to fill in.
  • Feeling darkness; learn to be the light.
  • Feeling tied up; learn to let-it-go.

Sometimes all we have to do is the opposite of what have been given to us. Just like the game called Reversi. When life turns into ‘black’, we have to turn it back into ‘white’ and win the game. By doing this, we are not only learning to survive but also learn the value of every act and situation we experienced. This is how to tell ourselves, our minds and our lives that we are getting better than good.

So whenever life is hard on you, please DO whatever it takes to live the life you DESIRE. You deserve it!

Reversi Game in Life

Reversi Game in Life

The Story about Me and Writing

Back in the 90s, I wrote short stories and poem because I loved it. And all the stuffs I wrote, I kept it in the drawers. Not many people know I wrote these stuffs except my beautiful niece. I wrote and I kept it. That’s it. I never get it published. My niece inspired me long time ago when she wrote same stuffs too and she got it published (if I’m not mistaken in local newspaper).

When I reached 18 years old, I stop writing. I wanted to believe that my passions are all about sciences. Dreams I dreamed mostly science related like I want to be an engineer or pharmacist. Of course none of these happened. I ended up earning income in the line of accounting (the subject I used to hate the most when I was in high school) for four years before pursuing the line of operations and managements in Logistic. All I have learned were numbers and people skills but none of these lead me to write.

Circa 2005, a friend of mine suggested I write drama script but I didn’t go for it. In 2008, I tried to write a blog but after few posts, I got bored. I don’t usually share about my life online. I prefer to write something inspiring or stories about love and life. But all I did was stop to write.

Two years later, when I realized that I got a lot to inspire people through writing, I decided to write again. This time, I narrowed down to motivation and personal growth. I’ve told myself after all the clues given to me from time to time, why should I stop? Equipped with motivation I had with me that time, I’ve told few people about my dream – to be a writer. Many disapproved because it is hard to make money through writing. Besides, my English is not that perfect. So I agree with them. Only this time, I decided not to stop.

Waves Lifestyle Magazine Sept-Oct 2012

Waves Lifestyle Magazine Sept-Oct 2012

One of my dreams is to get my articles or story published in magazine or newspaper. I approached this magazine (Waves Lifestyle Magazine) in 2011 but I didn’t get the shot. Later on, somewhere in August 2012, the editor of the magazine, Ms. Priya Manikam offered the opportunity for me to write motivation column for their magazine. She required a sample but I sent her two samples. Turned out, she loves both of it. She said (and I quoted);

“Your column is well liked by us. Keep staying inspired and take care”

Today, I received the hard-copy of the magazine and saw my first article titled: Inner Healing for Loneliness in page 36. After I took some photos, I walked to the book shelf and grabbed my journal. I flipped the page where I wrote Goals and Dreams to Achieve and checked off these two items:

Be a writer.
Publish articles in magazine/newspaper.

….And I’m glad I didn’t stop like I did before.

Me and the motivation column

Me and the motivation column

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Note: I would like to express my gratitude and thank the editor of Waves Lifestyle Magazine, Ms. Priya for the opportunity and for believing in me.

Waves Lifestyle Magazine is a free magazine available in Johor Bharu and Singapore. You can subscribed the magazine for updates and information via Facebook.

Why Letting Go With Fire Is Not A Good Idea?

You just broke up with your lover and you have so much anger, fear, frustration and hatred in you. These emotions soon become non-beneficial feelings and situations to you. All you have now is the urge to take the burden away from you. Then you started to grab a piece of paper and write down your feelings. Once you have finished it, you started to burn the piece of paper. Do you do this? Are you familiar with the tips?

I’ve seen this act many times in my life. I thought it was a great steps but I was wrong. Here I am about to tell you that the act of burning it is not a good idea to get rid things and emotions. Here are the reasons why.

1. Fire promotes heat.

Do not burn the non-beneficial feelings or situations with fire. It will only get worst.

Do not burn the non-beneficial feelings or situations with fire. It will only get worst.

When you write the feelings and situations you don’t like on paper, you have transfer the energy onto the paper through your powerful words. When you burn it, the fire increase heat on the words you wrote on the paper. That is why whoever burn their emotions through this process, didn’t really heal from the pain. Instead, they get more heat from it.

2. Fire relate to anger.
How do you feel when you get close to fire? Do you feel uncomfortable burning by the heat? How do you feel when you are standing closer to someone who is angry? Do you feel intensity and uncomfortable? Fire promotes intensity. The words you just burned have increased its intensity and turning into uncomfortable sensation of yours. It also means, if you burning your anger, you only gets more anger later on.

3. Energy Can’t Be Destroyed.
Since energy can’t be destroyed, whatever feelings or situations that you try to burn are still has its energy only in different form. The non-beneficial feelings and situations you thought has been destroyed are in fact still linger in your life.

The right way to get rid things is to transmute the energy you no longer need in harmony ways. Instead of burn it, try burying it. The act of bury means death and to our subconscious mind, it means ‘no longer serve us (the living)’. In fact, the energy you put onto the paper and the paper itself will be transmuted naturally by the nature.

And here’s the important part, it is alright if you need unleash all the non-beneficial feelings on the paper but close your case with gratitude and thank the feelings or situations for their services. This way, you are not just sending it off with anger but you choose to end it with LOVE. The energy of Love (the most powerful energy in the Universe) that you give will heal the energy of anger, fear, frustration or hatred that you released earlier. In the end, it all becomes a HEALING for your emotions.

If bury is too much for you, simply throw it away outside your house for recycle process. And the key words; send it off with LOVE.

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You can also get rid of non-beneficial energies with Full Moon Ritual. Check it out here.

Signs That You Are Blessed

Blessing is all over the earth and the sky. It’s infinite and countless. It’s unconditional love given by God through His entire creation in the universe. If you look with open heart and open mind, you will notice the blessing in your life. Here are some of situations and circumstances in our lives that appear to tell us “You Have Been Blessed and loved”.

1. Little are many
Whenever you and your life touch by the blessing, little or many is no longer appear as quantity. Instead they appear as abundance. Little or many seems as ONE instead of two separate entities. For example, the food that you eat seems little in portion but not to your body and soul. Another example is when you could spend a lot from the little money you have earned.

The Bird and Her Nest

The Bird and Her Nest

2. Nature get closer to you
Whenever blessing is part of you and your life, nature will give their love to you in the obvious way. The best example is when birds build a nest under your tree or in your yard. Look at it with our common sense, who would build a home in a place that is not safe? Birds and other animals know this. They just enjoy the love and blessing that you have.

3. More than 24 hours. 
All of us have been given 24 hours every day. The one with the blessing get to do many precious and productive tasks in those 24 hours. They get to do it with joy and love. In fact they feel that they have more than 24 hours in a day.
The one without blessing get to do it with worries, unnecessary pressure and most of the time they have not achieve much in 24 hours. Their companion is complaint and whining. 24 hours seems so little to achieve even a small goal.

4. Rescue is an inch distance
No doubt that sometimes you have to go through hard time in life but it can tell you whether blessing is given to you or otherwise. In situation like this, when rescue seems to appear sooner than you thought, take it as a sign of blessing is with you. One of the examples is when the money you have is not enough to spend until your next pay check and you are very much need an extra money. Soon enough, rescues appear in many ways. Look at it with an open mind, sometimes the rescue may not appear as the extra money that you need. It may appear in many ways such as free meals, opportunity to earn money from freelancing tasks or even better, someone appear to pay the money that he have owed you.

Rescue (for example an extra money) sometimes appear when you need it

Rescue (for example an extra money) sometimes appear when you need it

5. Troubles at the right time.
Do you believe that everything happen when the timing is right? People who are blessed see it this way. Those without bless see it as plainly trouble. One of the incidents I remembered the most is when my soul mate’s car broke down right in front of the workshop instead of the highway or in the middle of the road. It was not just that, the workshop that the car stopped and ‘died’ is the cheapest workshop in the area. No tow needed. Money spent on the incident was lesser than we expected.

We are all entitling for blessing and there are ways to earn it. One of the way is to give gratitude as many as we can. Gratitude is like a door for blessing to enter. The other way is to live with unconditional love because blessing is part of unconditional love. Seek and you will find. Give and you will get.

11 Simple Ways to Blissful Day

I’ve discovered these methods during my self-healing period months ago. In that period I was desperate to catch a blissful state of feeling, so I did these activities. I started few in the beginning and now at least 9 of it every day. After few days’ routine, the healing speeds up twice than before. After two weeks, it healed me from within. And now, after more than a month of these activities, I am healthy, energetic, joy and blissful.  So I’m going to share with you the awesomeness of these activities.

1. Wake up with gratitude. No matter how worst you feel when you waking up, say this: “Thank you”.

2. Morning walk – It gives you morning sun which is good for the body. Morning life is good for the soul and energy system. If you can’t do morning walk, go for an evening walk and do it outdoor instead of indoor (by using treadmill). Spend 30 minutes to walk
…and just walk.

Morning walk in the nature are suitable for all ages

Morning walk in the nature are suitable for all ages

3. Yoga – I started basic yoga, enough to make the energy flow evenly inside me. Good thing about yoga, it makes you feel young and alive. If you can’t do yoga, try others exercise that suits your need.

4. Communicate – Do this to as many people as you can. If you don’t feel weird (which you shouldn’t), communicate with the nature too. When you communicate, do it with Love.  Say beautiful words as much as you can. When you uplift a life, your life will be uplifted too.

5. Spend an hour for your hobby everyday – In my case, I just love cooking. So I would spend an hour everyday to create my own recipes.

6. Eat Moderately – Our body need food as exchange for the energy. If we consume more than we need, we are torturing our body and its systems. Eat healthy and eat moderately.

7. Give love – Love is as simple as prayers we send to people, animals, nature, things or situations. Giving love is indeed a healing itself. So everyone can do it and it’s easy.

8. Charity – Give charity every day. It doesn’t mean we have to give money every day. Be creative in charity; we could give our energies by helping others or spare our knowledge and share it with people. Charity is one of the way to circulate love to the world.

9. Pray or Meditate – The similar thing between these two are both require you to spend time in silence. The different is praying is an act of talking to God, whereas meditate is an act of listening not just God but all of His creation. Both praying and meditating heal and transform your personal growth from within. Both make us closer to the Creator. It gives us love, security and bliss. You can choose either one or both.

10. Breathing Exercise – You can do this anytime you want, sit or stand (you can do this in public too or when you stand in line, or at home sitting down). Take one deep breath in and let it out. Then take a breath in while counting to four. Then hold it to the count of four and then let it out to the count of four. Then take another breath or two in and out to relax. Then rinse and repeat tw or three times – Credit to Dr. Cha~zay.

11. Read affirmation and wishes before we go to sleep. These positive, love and beautiful affirmations and wishes will send message to our subconscious mind when we sleep. It helps us reprogram our life from sadness to joy, negative to positive, fear to love.

Yoga is one effective exercise to improve energy system in our body

Yoga is one effective exercise to improve energy system in our body

The Healing State

During my absence in motivation line-of-work, I got helped. I got it from people who used to walk on same path before, I got it from people who experienced same things like I did and I even got it from experts. These people understand the meaning of “The Healing State”.

One of the articles in this blog has explained my situation and why I choose to step aside from coaching until I get myself healed. One and the main reason was I unable to contribute “The Healing State” to the people I help or coach (I described it as I was lack in positive and love energy). Love and positiveness is important contribution in healing process. Allow me to explain an example.

A person who is sad, devastated, frustrated or heartbroken carries negative energy with him. He will shower and spread the negative energy towards surrounding with or without he realize it.

A healer is a person who carries positive energy with him. The source of positive energy is Love. Good healers shower and spread positive energy towards surrounding with or without he realize it. Here’s the question: What will happen when negativity meets positiveness?

The answer is, the energy will be neutralized and the state is called Healing.

When I relate the healing state with my progress, am I healed? Yes. I had progress positively and I’m eternally grateful with the progress but I do not achieve the state I want yet. I knew it is there and I will get to that stage sooner than I thought. So, those who wish I come back in action soon, thank you for the wishes. I will come back.  The heavy rain has stopped. It just drizzling now and the sun will be shined in no time.

Thank you for the support, the love and lights you gave me.

Healing Hand and Healing Lights

Healing Hand and Healing Lights