What is Love?

Many people falsely believe that love means a special relationship with someone. When I grew up, I was conditioned to believe the same. Therefore for nearly 22 years, I believed I have no love with me. Then I found a love. It didn’t last long, we broke up. With the belief I had with me that period, I was back to ‘No Love’ in my life.

What happens next? Believing that I have no love, I started to feel desperate to get another love. When I didn’t find one, I switched the love to something else. Luckily I didn’t go for drugs or alcohol. Instead I started to seek love within my career (I believe love is when I work 24/7 for 365 plus plus days with no medical leave…well I failed after 6 months) and non-social life like watching movies or online chat. It worked for many years (well it did help kill my time). Then I realized I felt empty again. I got bored. Then I was back to ‘No Love’ in my life.

So what’s actually wrong there? I realized that I was looking for Love in the wrong perspective.

Here’s the truth about LOVE. You don’t have to believe me. You can experience it for yourself. Take time to think about it and see the truth out of it. It may take you weeks, months or even years. My objective today is just to get this idea store in your conscious and subconscious mind. When you are ready, it will appear to guide and inspire you.

Love didn’t ‘exist’ on the external life, instead love exist from within.
Then what exist from within (in the internal) will be reflected on the external. How and why?
Because Love is within you. What’s within you didn’t leave you.
Love always present, only absent in the present of fear, hate, anger.
Love is giving. When you realize that Love is within you, what you do or give, you slip LOVE with it. Hence Love is giving.

Love is giving that every cell in your body giving love right now.
From the cells of eyes to the cells of heart, from the hair to the toes.
Love is giving and every emotion and thoughts you have will be filled with love.
And when Love is giving, every of your relationship (including the special ones) are filled with Love.

Sit in silence and feels it; even if this seems odd to you, even if you are feeling hatred right now. Sit and feels it. It’s already within you and it is free for you to feel it. Once you get it, Love appears in every aspect of your life. I already experienced mine and still experiencing it. I hope you do too.

By the way; here’s the article on differences between Love and Relationship. Click here

Since I accept that Love is from within, I started to see Love shapes everywhere. The flowers were round shaped. Subsconsciously when I shoot a photo, I got it from the angle that look like Love. Accidentally. The love shape was formed by three round shape flowers

Since I accept that Love is from within, I started to see Love shapes everywhere. Originally the flowers were three round shapes. When I shoot a photo, I accidentally got it from the angle that shape like Love. This photo was taken on my birthday last December. I love it.

Light: Between Us and Sunlight

Do you know that Sunlight takes around 8 minutes 20 seconds to reach the Earth?
The truth is even the biggest source of lights take that long to spread its light to the planet, therefore our lights that reach peoples’ hearts might take longer than that. Be patience in spreading your love and lights to others.

Spreading light

Turning Hopelessness Into Hope

Turning Hopelessness Into Hope

by Cha~zay, Ph.d., C.H.

I just heard the most awful sound of something crashing into the scaffolding right outside of my window. Whatever it was crashed right into the concrete below,” she said with a trembling voice. “What was it?” I asked in anticipation. “I walked outside to look and there laid the smashed body of a woman with her head splattered all over the concrete.”

Many don’t want to talk about suicide for various fears and misconceptions that talking about this darkest of dark deeds remains misunderstood and avoided at all costs. Many also falsely believe that talking about it will actually instigate and encourage it.

Nothing could be farther from the truth. By taking the ostrich approach and sticking your head in the sand pretending that hopelessness doesn’t exist you are not only avoiding the issue but you are actually aiding in making the problem worse.

As a trained grief and suicide hotline counselor let me assure you that being able to provide a safe space for others to talk about their darkest fears and heaviest pressures is the very thing that will actually prevent them from giving in to their hopelessness. Yes, you can be that important to those around you, whether a stranger or a friend.

However, I am not writing this article to write about suicide but to give you a flicker of hope and encourage you to be that same flicker of inspiration and hope to those around you. It’s easier and simpler than you think.

What You Can Do

One of the best ways to help the hopeless is to stop pretending that you are not affected. Take your head out of the clouds and come back to Earth and reality and realize that we are all responsible for each other.

Here are some additional ways you can turn into a flame of hope for those around you:

Acknowledgement and Ignorance: Everyone goes through life and at one point or another becomes hopeless to varying degrees. Especially now that the energies of the world are incredibly intense, thoughts of giving up and utter hopelessness are rampant. Ignoring this for yourself and those who try to reach out to you will not make the pressure go away. Talk about it and make yourself available to others who need to talk about it. When you know someone is in this space, acknowledge the dark space they’re in and do your best to hold a safe space for them.

Judgment and Forgiveness: If you find yourself judging even this article or the woman who jumped off the 18th floor from this San Francisco apartment complex last night, then know that the energy of your judgment is exactly a part of this problem we are facing together. Judgment is what gets people to a place of hopelessness, whether it is self judgment or judgment from others. People long to know that they are enough just the way they are, that they are not judged for living, loving, choosing the things they choose and for screwing up royally from time to time. We can’t even control the hair on our very head, at least I can’t, so how then do we expect to control another human being? What futility and waste of energy. So give it up already. Instead exercise forgiveness, compassion and empathy for yourself and those around you.

Love and Kindness: People are very confused these days about what love is and isn’t. Let me make this simple. Kindness is love in action. You can be a walking love machine, literally, by exercising constant kindness to not only yourself but also those around you. This includes animals, bugs and insects, plants and our planet. Kindness can be as simple as a sincere smile, as opposed to a forced, fake one. And as simple as a gentle look that says: “I see you. You matter. I care.”

Plant Seeds of Blessings: Look into someone’s eyes for 3-5 seconds as you pass them by while saying “I bless you.” It works miracles, literally! Don’t shove the responsibility of blessing another human being onto God by saying “God bless you.” YOU do it! You take the responsibility of blessing those around you. Why? Because you are a manifestation and our light source flows through you as much as it flows through everyone else. So don’t hand the responsibility over to anyone else, there is no one else besides you anyway. Know with certainty that you have all the tools to bless another ones’ life.

As a final note, please know that 92% of all people who commit suicide do have some type of chemical imbalance and/or are taking some type of medication. If you feel suicidal please call 1-800-SUICIDE or work with your therapist to get the help you need. Make sure that you take care of your brain by giving it the Omega 3s and other nutrition that it needs to operate at its best.

Biography: Dr. Cha~zay is a metaphysician, international life coach and certified hypnotist. She is a Reverend, certified and trained grief and suicide hotline counselor, transcendental dowser and Reiki master. She is the founder of a love forum community, http://corefreedom.com/

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Note: Thank you Dr. Cha~zay for the nicely written article and for the permission given to re-post the article in this blog.

Step 3: The Practical Steps to Heal From Illness

Step 3: I Can Heal

Don’t just take the words ‘I can heal’ as words of convincing but turn it into a belief too. BELIEF is a powerful force in human life. It works with subconscious mind. Subconscious mind then work directly with the body, mind and emotion. It also means, you can try many techniques of healing or medications but without believing that you can heal, healing becomes impossible to your body.

In part my healing treatment, I would guide my client to create a belief through powerful affirmation I create for them based on their need. The affirmation that they affirm on daily basis will help them reprogram their belief and heal them from within. As I always mentioned to my clients that primary healing start within them and secondary healing comes from the healers and medication. So always, always heal from within.

Tips: Besides create a belief through affirmation; you should avoid reading articles that does not contribute to your healing and beliefs. If you has an illness that scientifically no cure have been found yet (e.g diabetic, SLE), build a belief that you can ‘free’ yourself from the illness on period basis like months basis, yearly basis or entire lifetime

An Affirmation to Heal Anxiety

An Affirmation to Heal Anxiety

Beauty behind Time and Pressure

After been away from Internet for 5 days, I came back online and started to search for motivational posters to post in my Facebook Page and one poster caught my attention. It was beautifully quote by an unknown person (God bless You). Personally I would like to thank the person who quoted it, the person who designed it and those who shared it in the net.

The deal about the quote is to remind you that whenever you feel pressure in life or you think life is very hard on you, think about the caterpillars and butterflies, sand and pearls, coal and diamonds. It is not just about motivation. It is simply a science of life. It’s a motion of progress. It’s a transmutation and transformation. Like these elements named above, you and I are just like them. We all are.

Whenever you feel pressure or stress about the hard life you are going through, remember that you are transforming to the beautiful side of you, to the glory and success. Be patience and embrace the pressure with love. Time, love and patience will make sure your transformation is beautifully done.

And in the end, the lessons and progress within the transformation will be the things that make you extraordinary and beautiful.

Time and Pressure is A Transformation of Energy

Time and Pressure is A Transformation of Energy

Kayla Harrison And Her Powerful Affirmation

I read her victory story from Yahoo news just now and one thing caught my attention; her powerful affirmation that she said to herself for many years. Her affirmation is simple and yet very powerful.

“”Kayla Harrison IS an Olympic champion.” 

And she won first U.S Olympic Judo gold medal.

What she said is a powerful affirmation that light up her spirit. Every time she said it, the creation is in the process. The affirmation creates belief in her entire system. When all her system (body, mind, emotion and spiritual) gets the same direction, they work in harmony. The affirmation is powerful motivation to her and it leads her entirely to win the gold medal. It helped her to visualize the moments she wants and she did it. Look at how powerful an affirmation works on us, even it is just a simple one.

Read her full story and find out how the powerful affirmation had helped her go through all the obstacles she had in life. You will be touched, amazed and inspired by her life story. She’s the success story in my journal today.

Kayla Harrison Olympic 2012 Judo Gold Medalist.

Kayla Harrison Olympic 2012 Judo Gold Medalist.

11 Simple Ways to Blissful Day

I’ve discovered these methods during my self-healing period months ago. In that period I was desperate to catch a blissful state of feeling, so I did these activities. I started few in the beginning and now at least 9 of it every day. After few days’ routine, the healing speeds up twice than before. After two weeks, it healed me from within. And now, after more than a month of these activities, I am healthy, energetic, joy and blissful.  So I’m going to share with you the awesomeness of these activities.

1. Wake up with gratitude. No matter how worst you feel when you waking up, say this: “Thank you”.

2. Morning walk – It gives you morning sun which is good for the body. Morning life is good for the soul and energy system. If you can’t do morning walk, go for an evening walk and do it outdoor instead of indoor (by using treadmill). Spend 30 minutes to walk
…and just walk.

Morning walk in the nature are suitable for all ages

Morning walk in the nature are suitable for all ages

3. Yoga – I started basic yoga, enough to make the energy flow evenly inside me. Good thing about yoga, it makes you feel young and alive. If you can’t do yoga, try others exercise that suits your need.

4. Communicate – Do this to as many people as you can. If you don’t feel weird (which you shouldn’t), communicate with the nature too. When you communicate, do it with Love.  Say beautiful words as much as you can. When you uplift a life, your life will be uplifted too.

5. Spend an hour for your hobby everyday – In my case, I just love cooking. So I would spend an hour everyday to create my own recipes.

6. Eat Moderately – Our body need food as exchange for the energy. If we consume more than we need, we are torturing our body and its systems. Eat healthy and eat moderately.

7. Give love – Love is as simple as prayers we send to people, animals, nature, things or situations. Giving love is indeed a healing itself. So everyone can do it and it’s easy.

8. Charity – Give charity every day. It doesn’t mean we have to give money every day. Be creative in charity; we could give our energies by helping others or spare our knowledge and share it with people. Charity is one of the way to circulate love to the world.

9. Pray or Meditate – The similar thing between these two are both require you to spend time in silence. The different is praying is an act of talking to God, whereas meditate is an act of listening not just God but all of His creation. Both praying and meditating heal and transform your personal growth from within. Both make us closer to the Creator. It gives us love, security and bliss. You can choose either one or both.

10. Breathing Exercise – You can do this anytime you want, sit or stand (you can do this in public too or when you stand in line, or at home sitting down). Take one deep breath in and let it out. Then take a breath in while counting to four. Then hold it to the count of four and then let it out to the count of four. Then take another breath or two in and out to relax. Then rinse and repeat tw or three times – Credit to Dr. Cha~zay.

11. Read affirmation and wishes before we go to sleep. These positive, love and beautiful affirmations and wishes will send message to our subconscious mind when we sleep. It helps us reprogram our life from sadness to joy, negative to positive, fear to love.

Yoga is one effective exercise to improve energy system in our body

Yoga is one effective exercise to improve energy system in our body

When Balance Finds You

Since 2012, every event that occurred in my life have taught me lessons and helped me growth beautifully from inside. I’ve learned that love is not something we get but it is something we give unconditionally. It becomes a practice to me and I must admit, it is not easy to give love especially in the most inconvenient situations like arguments. So practice made perfect.

God always have better plans for us and I do believe that. First He taught me to learn to Love myself and my own body. In that period, I discover that every human has a power of healing provided they allow the healing process to take place. Then He taught me to love people through healing process. Since then, I started to discover my potentials and gifts but I wasn’t entirely sure about it. So He sent me people who came into my life and shared with me their experiences. Not just that, they were the ones who pointed out my potentials as a natural healer.

I pondered few times about being a healer, regardless naturally or otherwise and I noticed that many people have turned to be healers. The question is why? What is happening and why people suddenly changed their paths to be healers? After a while, the answer came (check out the poster below).

Love is indeed a healing factor itself. It all started when Love arises in me and I felt the balance of life deep within. It just a matter of how to live the balance after so many attachments I have in my life. Once the balance set it, many things came along including love, wealth, health and more. Balance is something we cannot run away from it and it is a MUST to learn how to live with it. So when balance finds you, get ready mentally, emotionally and spiritually because your life is turning beautifully as it should.

Since I have learned Usui Reiki, I’m going to give systematic healing and guide people to stay balance in their life with Love. And this is me coming back to the business with more systematic ways. Hello to you again and the sun is shining now. I promised myself to come out and play and here I am now ready to guide you with beautiful programs and live life wealthy, healthy and in beautiful loving ways.

Please refer the changes made here.

Be The Balance Factor With Love

Be The Balance Factor With Love

What Takes You So Long?

After my little confession in this blog, I have been away for healing process. I am still in the healing process and progress is there. Actually there are lots of progresses. Challenges too. I’m going to share with you one of the biggest progress I’ve made last week; my self-love.

After nearly two months in the battle with something inside me, I have less love towards myself. It didn’t mean I hurt myself with objects and create visible scars. When a person have less self-love, things like anger, frustration and fear can easily take over the person’s life. That was what happened to me. I was no longer a happy person. I could easily felt disturbed by small little things like unexplained energy and pain. Mostly I felt fear. Anger came later on. It was easy for me to throw my anger around. I was ‘ugly’.

For a person who always promotes love but not be able to live with love was torturing. That period of tortured have made me sick. Little that I know, I have invited new sickness like nausea and vomiting and also outgrowth whatever illness I already have in me.

Courage, always in YouSo one day I went to the hospital for the follow up. The Doctor was nice but as usual he was referring to my age. Medically, I was too young for the illness. With the ‘mumble mumble‘ about the age, my ears heard but my mind not. Something inside me caught my attention but it was not clear.

After the visit, I have to wait for the medicines in the pharmacy. While waiting, I asked myself silently;

“What have I done that my body have to take all the pain?”. This question put my emotion at rest. No ego. No guilt. No fear. No anger. Just plain wonder.

Then I heard my inner voice spoke to me;

“Your body knows what to do and how to heal. Trust them and love them. We are all with you”

We? Silence. Beautiful silence.

And I felt tears in my eyes. I knew that voice. It’s a same voice that used to speak to me not long ago. It’s my courage. With tears I smiled at myself again. Touched by the visit, I started to smile again to the world.

Before I go to bed that night, I asked again;

“What takes you so long?”

“We were there, waiting for you to give us some space to growth” 

And so I did. The moment I put fear, anger and some others negative emotions at rest, even for a seconds, love inside me have found its way to take up the space. I’m eternally grateful that I made positive progress in my healing.

Until to-date, I woke up feeling healthier than yesterday. I am still healing. I am still being challenged every day. I know it will not stop until I completely take over it with Love.

Good bye Anger. Good bye Fear…and Hello Love.

We All Have Self-Love

We All Have Self-Love

The Beauty of Imperfection

Do you remember when was the last time you wish you can be like the person you admired? Do you remember when was the last time you wish you have some kind of unique abilities or creativity? Do you remember when was the last time you say “I accept who I am” especially in the moments of failures?

Do you do this to yourself?

Do you do this to yourself?

When it comes to weaknesses, almost everyone wish that they can be different and better. We accept who we are when we score high in life but not when we fail. We pat and cherish ourselves when we achieve success but, do we do the same when we fail? Have you ever pat your own shoulder and say “It’s okay. We do great” when you actually in the moment of failure? We tend to give ourselves self-discrimination when we dealing with failure. I have to say it is a normal reaction that we adapt from the society (cherish the success and boo the failures) but it is not normal to be applied on ourselves.

As a human, we always seek equality from others but rarely from ourselves. We desire equal and respect from others but we rarely give the same to ourselves. Try to look back and remember what have we done to ourselves especially when we fail in achieving our dreams? Many of us would criticize own-self.

  • “What is wrong with me?”
  • “How can I failed?”
  • “Am I a loser?”
  • “Am I weak?”
  • “Why am I so blind?”

If you always ask yourself these questions, please stop and think this way instead. Failure is not entirely means we are weak. Failure is just another life teacher who is there to teach us the right way to the success. Weaknesses on the other hand are very general in meaning. A person can be weak at expressing emotion but great at expressing mind objectively. If the person choose to work as actor, he would fail but not if he’s the person who solve problems on financial. Hence, I don’t see weaknesses as weak but I see it as imperfection.

What’s the different between weaknesses and imperfections?

A weakness is the reflection of the imperfection. When we use our imperfections to score in life, we tend to bring weaknesses to the surface. When weaknesses emerge, we claim it as failure. That is why people often see failures as negative. But the truth that failure is nothing but a success guru in life.

Why are we imperfect? 

Imperfection is the balance factor in life. Imperfection is like pieces of puzzles that fit one another. Without imperfection, you and I are the same in everything. When everyone is the same, we do no longer need each other to live and that is not the purpose of life. Every human are made to be with everyone.

Perfection means all the space are equally filled and progress no longer need in life. Imperfection, on contrary offers space to growth. As a human, we are made to growth and to progress and we progress better in imperfection. The reason is because our desire to achieve perfection from the imperfection. That force of desire motivates us.

Imperfection is Beauty

Imperfection is Beauty

What’s the benefit of imperfection?

Imperfection allows us to discover ourselves deeper. Going through the challenges and failures will make us know self abilities and talents. Knowing our imperfection can help us build our strengths too. It is alright to be imperfect. We should not feel different from others because everyone has their own imperfection.

In marriage and others relationships, imperfection offers opportunity of learning and helping each other. I always remind couples that imperfection is beauty in relationship. Never see imperfection as the gap, instead see it as opportunity to growth together. This concept of imperfection applies in life too. I learned a lot from others because my imperfection didn’t give me the knowledge by itself. My imperfection helps me to connect with others as much as my strength connects me with other.

When some people use imperfection to achieve their goals, I would suggest you to use your strengths for this matter. Your strengths will help you outgrowth your abilities and talents easier. However, do not leave your imperfection behind. Your imperfections would often offer you spaces to growth especially on new things and new knowledge. In achieving goals, you may use your imperfection to oversee the failures in advance.  This method will help you reduce the failure and give more space to success.

The song I attached together with this article is dedicated to those who often see themselves as weak and fail to achieve in life. My message is your imperfection is one of the key to your success. Leverage from it. And rise whoever you are because your success is waiting for you!

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