Two Main Reasons Why Life is Unfair

Have you ever ask yourself, what do you really want?

The problem we have with Life is that we think Life is unfair. We want a car; Life gives us a motorbike. We want to be rich but we feel Life gives us more debts. So yeah, Life seems unfair.

Our problem is we don’t ask questions. We don’t ask questions to ourselves, a place where Life Is. A body where Life is unfolding. We don’t ask Life what we want! (or God if you like to refer Life as God).

Often when I asked people “What do you want?” – They answered, “I don’t know”.

Imagine Life is giving you I-Don’t-Know. And Life is unfair.

The Lazy Personality

I-Don’t-Know is a pretty lazy personality we embedded in our cells. Instead of taking some moment of silence to feel the question, people jump right into I-Don’t-Know because their mind cannot give them an answer. That’s how lazy we become.

The Art of Asking

Learn to ask yourself questions and give some space to receive the answers. In every question you ask, there are answers. You just have to be patience.

And second, ask in a particular manner. Be specific! Don’t ask I-Want-To-Be-Rich. It’s a general request. But Life gives it to you anyway. If today you earn an extra $10 compared to yesterday, then you are richer than yesterday.

Life is fair. It gives us what we asked. Our problem is, we don’t ask questions and we have no patience for the answers. We hardly ask questions about ourselves. We are afraid to ask questions about societies and beliefs. We don’t want to provoke our thinking mind. We fear the answers. We are not ready to receive. And Life is so unfair .

So when was the last time you ever ask yourself, “What do I  want?”

Q-What do I want

 

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I Love to Judge but…

Everyone has Judgemental Mind (whether the energy is defined or undefined, everyone experience it). And the judgemental mind has its energy. Every energy has polarity (duality, yin/yang, berpasangan) including the judgemental mind. One side of the energy has lower vibration, and the other end of the energy has the highest vibration.

What Happen to Us When We Use The Judgemental Energy?

The lowest vibration of this energy will make a person tend to gossip and judge others in a negative way. The highest expression of this energy will cause the individual become a skillful thinker which the analytical mind could see differences and similarities of patterns and shape of Life. Scientists and intellectual falls into this category.

The judgemental mind is not bad or evil. It has its purpose to serve human in seeing differences and similarity so humanity could thrive from time to time. It is how we use the judgemental mind that counts. If we stuck in the lowest expression of this energy, we constantly hurting people through our judgements (gossips, bad-mouthing, etc). If we live in the highest expression of this energy, we can change the world because through the judgement comes understanding, corrections and solutions.

Judgemental Energy, judge and analyse. That’s all it do. But the vibrational point in which we execute our causes can make a lot different in our life and the world. If you want to see yourself think differently or experience the highest expression of this energy, you need to shift the judgemental energy from moment to moment.

 

Shift your mind and you shift your world

How Do We Shift The Energy?

We can do it through silence. Judgemental energy needs to express its trait through the throat centre. Be wise in your expression through this energy. For example, if you can catch yourself gossips about others, you can become aware that your judgemental energy is vibrating at the lower vibration. Quickly shift yourself into a silence mode. Say No More! and walk away.

The other way is through reading and analytical thinking on similarity and differences between what we perceive and what we believe. I practice this a lot when I read books on different ideology and beliefs. For example, when I read books about consciousness, I use the energy to judge the differences and also the similarities between one religious culture to another…And I do it just for the fun of judging and thinking

If you can shift the judgemental energy into a higher vibration, you can see the different in the way you think and experience the reality. Shift your mind and you shift your world.

 

Note: The Judgemental Energy trait can be found in the channel 18/58 (Human Design). 

Things You Should Do Before December Ends – Magazine Article

Hello everyone. This is a quick introduction for my December article in the Waves Lifestyle/The Iskandarian news-magazine. I just want you to know that I’ve been doing these activities for the past two years and I enjoy every moments of it. These activities give me sense of light and avoid me from carrying excess baggages and burden to the next year. It also helps me reduce the probability to live the same pattern of life. I hope these activities can help you in the same way or even better.

You can read the full article here (page 19)

Things You Should Do Before December Ends

Things You Should Do Before December Ends

Part 2: Three Powerful Things – Mag June and May 2013

Now let’s go down to June 2013.
The article gives you tips on how you can unleash your true potential. It’s a small act you can give to yourself on daily basis and get your subconscious mind bring the wonders accordingly.
Link: http://issuu.com/waveslifestyle/docs/the_iskandarian_june_2013_web

Unleash Your True Potential

And May 2013 article with title, Three Powerful Things to do Before You Sleep
link: http://issuu.com/waveslifestyle/docs/the_iskandarian_may_2013_web_version

Three Powerful Things To Do Before You Sleep

Three Powerful Things To Do Before You Sleep

How to Start Reading Habit?

Do you know that books can help you transform your life, see new perspectives in life and help you on your imagination? Yes, books not only give you the knowledge but words written in it can be powerful tools for you in making progress in your life.

Start your reading habit with 15 to 30 minutes first. Read a book and not a newspaper. Then make a habit to read at least 1 hour a day. If you cannot do a straight reading for an hour, divide it into 2 sessions of 30 minutes reading for each book. In my case, I read in the morning (I prefer to go for a self-help book) and in the evening (I prefer novels or biography). If I need to work away from home, I read in the car or after I had my breakfast (after the meals but before the coffee or tea in the cup finish).

Pick at least two books to read; 

1. Books that can help you make progress in life. For example; Self-help, financial, relationship, business etc.
2. Books that can help you work out with your imagination: For example: novels, fictions etc.

Additional:
I would also love to recommend you to read biography/autobiography books. The reason is; you will see life from a different set of eyes and walk in the person’s shoes (having said that, pick the books wisely). My favourites were The Boy Who Harnessed the Wind and Richard Branson; Losing My Virginity.

Happy Reading to you!

Books for The Week.

Books for The Week.

Turning Hopelessness Into Hope

Turning Hopelessness Into Hope

by Cha~zay, Ph.d., C.H.

I just heard the most awful sound of something crashing into the scaffolding right outside of my window. Whatever it was crashed right into the concrete below,” she said with a trembling voice. “What was it?” I asked in anticipation. “I walked outside to look and there laid the smashed body of a woman with her head splattered all over the concrete.”

Many don’t want to talk about suicide for various fears and misconceptions that talking about this darkest of dark deeds remains misunderstood and avoided at all costs. Many also falsely believe that talking about it will actually instigate and encourage it.

Nothing could be farther from the truth. By taking the ostrich approach and sticking your head in the sand pretending that hopelessness doesn’t exist you are not only avoiding the issue but you are actually aiding in making the problem worse.

As a trained grief and suicide hotline counselor let me assure you that being able to provide a safe space for others to talk about their darkest fears and heaviest pressures is the very thing that will actually prevent them from giving in to their hopelessness. Yes, you can be that important to those around you, whether a stranger or a friend.

However, I am not writing this article to write about suicide but to give you a flicker of hope and encourage you to be that same flicker of inspiration and hope to those around you. It’s easier and simpler than you think.

What You Can Do

One of the best ways to help the hopeless is to stop pretending that you are not affected. Take your head out of the clouds and come back to Earth and reality and realize that we are all responsible for each other.

Here are some additional ways you can turn into a flame of hope for those around you:

Acknowledgement and Ignorance: Everyone goes through life and at one point or another becomes hopeless to varying degrees. Especially now that the energies of the world are incredibly intense, thoughts of giving up and utter hopelessness are rampant. Ignoring this for yourself and those who try to reach out to you will not make the pressure go away. Talk about it and make yourself available to others who need to talk about it. When you know someone is in this space, acknowledge the dark space they’re in and do your best to hold a safe space for them.

Judgment and Forgiveness: If you find yourself judging even this article or the woman who jumped off the 18th floor from this San Francisco apartment complex last night, then know that the energy of your judgment is exactly a part of this problem we are facing together. Judgment is what gets people to a place of hopelessness, whether it is self judgment or judgment from others. People long to know that they are enough just the way they are, that they are not judged for living, loving, choosing the things they choose and for screwing up royally from time to time. We can’t even control the hair on our very head, at least I can’t, so how then do we expect to control another human being? What futility and waste of energy. So give it up already. Instead exercise forgiveness, compassion and empathy for yourself and those around you.

Love and Kindness: People are very confused these days about what love is and isn’t. Let me make this simple. Kindness is love in action. You can be a walking love machine, literally, by exercising constant kindness to not only yourself but also those around you. This includes animals, bugs and insects, plants and our planet. Kindness can be as simple as a sincere smile, as opposed to a forced, fake one. And as simple as a gentle look that says: “I see you. You matter. I care.”

Plant Seeds of Blessings: Look into someone’s eyes for 3-5 seconds as you pass them by while saying “I bless you.” It works miracles, literally! Don’t shove the responsibility of blessing another human being onto God by saying “God bless you.” YOU do it! You take the responsibility of blessing those around you. Why? Because you are a manifestation and our light source flows through you as much as it flows through everyone else. So don’t hand the responsibility over to anyone else, there is no one else besides you anyway. Know with certainty that you have all the tools to bless another ones’ life.

As a final note, please know that 92% of all people who commit suicide do have some type of chemical imbalance and/or are taking some type of medication. If you feel suicidal please call 1-800-SUICIDE or work with your therapist to get the help you need. Make sure that you take care of your brain by giving it the Omega 3s and other nutrition that it needs to operate at its best.

Biography: Dr. Cha~zay is a metaphysician, international life coach and certified hypnotist. She is a Reverend, certified and trained grief and suicide hotline counselor, transcendental dowser and Reiki master. She is the founder of a love forum community, http://corefreedom.com/

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Note: Thank you Dr. Cha~zay for the nicely written article and for the permission given to re-post the article in this blog.

The Reversi Game of Life

Life is always hard on us. I agree with the statement and many people do too. But why life is hard on us? If life is so beautiful, why life treats us ‘ugly’? The reason is; to teach us act the opposite acts. If you are:

  • Feeling weak; get up to prove your strengths.
  • Feeling lost; keep moving and ask for direction because new direction is unfolding before you.
  • Feeling empty; fill yourself with love. Not people. Certainly not any materials.
  • Feeling hatred; fill your own self with forgiveness.
  • Feeling lack;, fill yourself with gratitude.
  • Feeling busy; learn to manage time.
  • Emotionally mess; list it on paper. An act of listing ‘cure’ messiness.
  • Feeling sad; fill yourself with patience.
  • Feeling pain; allow healing to fill in.
  • Feeling darkness; learn to be the light.
  • Feeling tied up; learn to let-it-go.

Sometimes all we have to do is the opposite of what have been given to us. Just like the game called Reversi. When life turns into ‘black’, we have to turn it back into ‘white’ and win the game. By doing this, we are not only learning to survive but also learn the value of every act and situation we experienced. This is how to tell ourselves, our minds and our lives that we are getting better than good.

So whenever life is hard on you, please DO whatever it takes to live the life you DESIRE. You deserve it!

Reversi Game in Life

Reversi Game in Life

11 Simple Ways to Blissful Day

I’ve discovered these methods during my self-healing period months ago. In that period I was desperate to catch a blissful state of feeling, so I did these activities. I started few in the beginning and now at least 9 of it every day. After few days’ routine, the healing speeds up twice than before. After two weeks, it healed me from within. And now, after more than a month of these activities, I am healthy, energetic, joy and blissful.  So I’m going to share with you the awesomeness of these activities.

1. Wake up with gratitude. No matter how worst you feel when you waking up, say this: “Thank you”.

2. Morning walk – It gives you morning sun which is good for the body. Morning life is good for the soul and energy system. If you can’t do morning walk, go for an evening walk and do it outdoor instead of indoor (by using treadmill). Spend 30 minutes to walk
…and just walk.

Morning walk in the nature are suitable for all ages

Morning walk in the nature are suitable for all ages

3. Yoga – I started basic yoga, enough to make the energy flow evenly inside me. Good thing about yoga, it makes you feel young and alive. If you can’t do yoga, try others exercise that suits your need.

4. Communicate – Do this to as many people as you can. If you don’t feel weird (which you shouldn’t), communicate with the nature too. When you communicate, do it with Love.  Say beautiful words as much as you can. When you uplift a life, your life will be uplifted too.

5. Spend an hour for your hobby everyday – In my case, I just love cooking. So I would spend an hour everyday to create my own recipes.

6. Eat Moderately – Our body need food as exchange for the energy. If we consume more than we need, we are torturing our body and its systems. Eat healthy and eat moderately.

7. Give love – Love is as simple as prayers we send to people, animals, nature, things or situations. Giving love is indeed a healing itself. So everyone can do it and it’s easy.

8. Charity – Give charity every day. It doesn’t mean we have to give money every day. Be creative in charity; we could give our energies by helping others or spare our knowledge and share it with people. Charity is one of the way to circulate love to the world.

9. Pray or Meditate – The similar thing between these two are both require you to spend time in silence. The different is praying is an act of talking to God, whereas meditate is an act of listening not just God but all of His creation. Both praying and meditating heal and transform your personal growth from within. Both make us closer to the Creator. It gives us love, security and bliss. You can choose either one or both.

10. Breathing Exercise – You can do this anytime you want, sit or stand (you can do this in public too or when you stand in line, or at home sitting down). Take one deep breath in and let it out. Then take a breath in while counting to four. Then hold it to the count of four and then let it out to the count of four. Then take another breath or two in and out to relax. Then rinse and repeat tw or three times – Credit to Dr. Cha~zay.

11. Read affirmation and wishes before we go to sleep. These positive, love and beautiful affirmations and wishes will send message to our subconscious mind when we sleep. It helps us reprogram our life from sadness to joy, negative to positive, fear to love.

Yoga is one effective exercise to improve energy system in our body

Yoga is one effective exercise to improve energy system in our body

Internet Business Class and Wealth with Law of Attraction

Last year few people asked me if I ever thought of doing my own talk. My replied was “The plan is either end of this year (2011) or early next year (2012) depends on how soon the injury heals.” It was a little bit dragged but my dream came true. Last week on 9th June 2012, I had my first class in my hometown, Penang.

The class was more on Internet Business and techniques but I have added a 45 minutes talk on Law of Attraction (specifically on wealth attraction). My objective is to help participants build their own internet business with proper technical steps and roll it together with the laws of life like Law of Attraction and Power of Wishes (affirmations). The modules will help participants build the business in terms of giving actions and receiving the results and wealth.

The idea to start the class came one week before I travel to Penang for vacation. Yes! One week for a class, modules, marketing and arrangement, was indeed one crazy idea. But this was what I told myself when the idea came to me; Let’s Make It Real. Although I’m an optimistic but I’m also a bit of realist. With only one week I had in hand for everything and the place I choose, I don’t expect a crowd of 20-30 participants. My expectation is only 5 to 7 participants. Ask and you shall receive and I eventually scored 5 people for the first class with 2 people to help me on the photo shoots and others. So total people were 7! This is awesome as a start! (Just so you know that one participant didn’t turn up for the class but she is now having online class with me via email)

Here are some photos took by my Graphic Designer, Joe lai (and also a person who had help me bringing this idea into reality, Millions thanks to her) and by my niece, Zahrah who took photos beautifully even she had issues with her Canon DSLR.

Gorgeous Gentlemen for Internet Business Express Course and Wealth with Law of Attraction

Gorgeous Gentlemen for Internet Business Express Course and Wealth with Law of Attraction

There were two guys and two ladies registered for the class. The one that wearing red shirt was the host, Hezreen (below picture). She was the one who been asking for the class since last year and willing to travel to my place just to learn something new. I sensed her dedication was genuine and honest, so I decided to bring the class to her place. I only asked for free drinks for participants, she gave us more than that. What a beautiful soul she is.

Beautiful Ladies in the Internet Business Express Course and Wealth with Law of Attraction

Beautiful Ladies in the Internet Business Express Course and Wealth with Law of Attraction

The lady who sat beside Hezreen is Corina, who have asked me about Internet Business in 2010. Two years later, when I text her about the class, she was excited to participate.

And that’s me. I was giving explanation and differences between Affiliates and Drop Ship. There are huge different between being an affiliates and doing drop ships. In the class I have explained what are their efforts and things they need to do when they choose to be an affiliate, re-sellers or both.

I was explaining the terms of affiliate and re-sellers

I was explaining the terms of affiliate and re-sellers

Standing makes it easy to show a little expression

Standing makes it easy to show a little expression

I love the excitements that they shared with me especially from Hezreen and Corina. Both gentlemen, Rafi and Hafiz (siblings) were calmer and a little shy. Rafi seems a bit excited when it comes to artifacts and Sugar Glider discussion, which he has intention to take it into proper business.

We laughed a lot especially when we discuss about the marketing and wealth in Internet Business

We laughed a lot especially when we discuss about the marketing and wealth in Internet Business

The Wealth with Law of Attractions has given everyone new perspective in creating wealth in life and business. All the participants have no clue what is Law of Attraction and how it works. After few slides on the subject, they started to realize many things that happen to them in terms of financials and money. Hezreen quoted “Ah! No wonder I could only sell a house last month because I’ve said – If I could sell a house is great enough…then I did and I started to get panicked because a house is not great enough”. 

In the same subject, I have given the participants steps in creating wealth with law of attraction including creating positive habit and daily practices, and reprogram wishes within conscious and subconscious mind.

I’m planning to roll the same class again in Penang, Kuala Lumpur and Selangor and I believe in this, the numbers of participants is now growing. If you interested in learning both of these subjects or either one of it, please contact me via my email or phone numbers.

Last but not least, thank you Allah for making everyone dreams comes true.

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Special Thanks:

To all the participants, Hezreen, Corina, Rafi, Hafiz, Lai (who have taken the class online), I would love to say this again; Thank you so much for the supports and willingness to learn new knowledge. I enjoy the knowledge sharing with everyone in the class.

For Hezreen, thank you so much for hosting the class and the efforts. It was beautifully arranged. For Joe Lai and Zahrah, thank you for being there to support me. I could not make this far without your guys help.

When Balance Finds You

Since 2012, every event that occurred in my life have taught me lessons and helped me growth beautifully from inside. I’ve learned that love is not something we get but it is something we give unconditionally. It becomes a practice to me and I must admit, it is not easy to give love especially in the most inconvenient situations like arguments. So practice made perfect.

God always have better plans for us and I do believe that. First He taught me to learn to Love myself and my own body. In that period, I discover that every human has a power of healing provided they allow the healing process to take place. Then He taught me to love people through healing process. Since then, I started to discover my potentials and gifts but I wasn’t entirely sure about it. So He sent me people who came into my life and shared with me their experiences. Not just that, they were the ones who pointed out my potentials as a natural healer.

I pondered few times about being a healer, regardless naturally or otherwise and I noticed that many people have turned to be healers. The question is why? What is happening and why people suddenly changed their paths to be healers? After a while, the answer came (check out the poster below).

Love is indeed a healing factor itself. It all started when Love arises in me and I felt the balance of life deep within. It just a matter of how to live the balance after so many attachments I have in my life. Once the balance set it, many things came along including love, wealth, health and more. Balance is something we cannot run away from it and it is a MUST to learn how to live with it. So when balance finds you, get ready mentally, emotionally and spiritually because your life is turning beautifully as it should.

Since I have learned Usui Reiki, I’m going to give systematic healing and guide people to stay balance in their life with Love. And this is me coming back to the business with more systematic ways. Hello to you again and the sun is shining now. I promised myself to come out and play and here I am now ready to guide you with beautiful programs and live life wealthy, healthy and in beautiful loving ways.

Please refer the changes made here.

Be The Balance Factor With Love

Be The Balance Factor With Love