Pain, The Greatest Teacher Part 1 & 2

Recently I spoke to my editor from The Iskandarian/WAVES Lifestyle newspaper about turning my articles into audio materials. The idea is to cater people who prefer listening than reading. Furthermore, I have many articles from past years that is still useful for the audiences. And she gave me the green light to start the project. 
The articles are short. The published articles contain about 300 to 310 words, and the audio comes with three minutes video. So I geared up yesterday for recording and editing. And today I have two videos to share.
My first pick is articles (two parts) about Pain, The Greatest Teacher. No one likes pain. However, if we are willing to acknowledge our pain and be with it, the pain we feel can teach us many things about ourselves and Life. 
Remember that even pain has a quality, and the quality of the pain depends on the quality of observer. 
Enjoy the videos. 
Note: Full links to the e-paper in the YouTube Channel. 

What is Affirmation Program?

In this simple article, I would love to explain why I have added affirmation writing as part of the healing programs. Here are the explanations:

1. Every creation is happening NOW, not in the past and not in the future but it happens NOW.

2. Every creation begins through these ways:

  • The power of our thoughts and imaginations (Mind)
  • The power of our emotions
  • The power of our words.

3. What we have in our minds and emotions, we always affirm it through our words.

4. As we speak (affirm), we create.

5. As we create, God, through His wonderful creation, The Universe will bring the creation into our lives accordingly.

Basically creation of our lives always comes from our mind, emotions and our own words. It is as simple as speak good words and good things will come into our lives. So with the negative words and it happen in the same process.

Affirmation Writing Is Part of Our Healing and Motivation Programs

Affirmation Writing Is Part of Our Healing and Motivation Programs

How Affirmation Helps?

Affirmation is a specific, constructive and powerful words that build to suits your need; mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When a person read the affirmation, he is creating the life wholly. When a person read the affirmation repeatedly, he is storing the powerful words into his conscious and subconscious mind.

The fastest result is getting your mind, emotion and words work in loving and positively powerful ways. Affirmations create powerful beliefs in your system entirely (We don’t get what we want but we get want we belief – Oprah). The long term result is self transformation that leads to meaningful and healthy life.

Affirmation writing is powerful and yet it can be tricky too. Just like mantras (doa) and prayers, wrongful wishes can lead to inconvenience results. Although some affirmation sounds positive enough to everyone but it may not suits the person need at that particular level. Hence, I would suggest that you get a right person to help you create powerful affirmation in transform your life entirely. In healing and health, affirmations create powerful result to the healing system.

If you interested in transform your life, health, relationship and anything you desire, we could write a powerful affirmation for you. For more information, please contact us via our email. Thank you.

Affirmation Writing is Powerful in Creating Life Entirely

Affirmation Writing is Powerful in Creating Life Entirely

Breaking Up – Why and The Healing.


Breaking up from a relationship is painful. What are the best things can be done to heal? Should we try to get back together? Can love growth again after brake up?


Yes breaking up is painful but sometimes it could be just the surface of the emotion. Not all breaks up cases are painful to the three elements (mind, emotion and soul). Understand that relationship is not just physical and emotion connection between two people but also soul connection between two souls. It hurts for the physical and emotional being when two people are breaking up but it may not hurt the soul being. This however, depends on the reason for breaking up.

Sometimes break up helps to restore the harmony between two souls. When the relationship is creating gap and the only things that filling the gap is argument, hate, anger, frustration, then break up probably the good thing to do.

If one of the soul change his/her course of love, break up is the best thing to save self from prolonged pain

If one of the soul change his/her course of love, break up is the best thing to save self from prolonged pain

First we have to understand why we are breaking up and what can be the goodness we get from it. I experienced a case where a couple who were married for two years find themselves cursing each other every day and creating more agony than happiness. When both of them choose not to give up their ego and growth love in their marriage, break up is the only way to save their emotions and friendship. However, they remained for another year and they end up divorced in the ugliest way. The result was a war between these two souls. It takes them years to forgive each other. They could save their souls from the pain if they allow breaks up when they are still in state of respect to each other. This is the goodness that many people missed when they see break up is bad decision to make.

My advice is not to let both souls (you and him) go to that path of anger and hate. If a couple believe that happiness and love is still in the relation, then work something out to growth the love back. Love and happiness is not just a belief. It’s a work, progress and action.

Constructive Solution:

Should we try to get back together?

This will always be the best thing to do but with a condition: both of you must let go the ego and the past first. These two elements could block your love from growing again. Love taste best when both couple living in NOW moments and not the past.

Can love growth again after brake up? 

Loves always growth. Love is already in us. If we allow it to growth, it wills growth. Forgiveness is the best act that helps love growth. Forgive yourself for the things that happened. Forgive him for the things that happened. Then move on and love again.

What are the best things can be done to heal? 

  1. Forgive.
  2. Stay in the state of love especially to yourself. Give love to all the things around you and you will get love back. This act is to avoid anger, hate and despair taking over your emotion.
  3. Do things you never have chances to do before. Find yourself back from the activities you desire to do.
  4. Belief that only time, love and your effort to heal will heal you.
Break up not always a bad decision. Sometimes break up is the best thing to save self from prolonged pain. See the whole situation in the bigger picture and decide if break up is good or bad for both souls. That would help both souls stay connect and respect each other. Most important it save self from anger and hate.


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The Different Between Love and Relationship

Many people believe that love means relationship. They believe that if they are not in relationship, they have no love in their lives. This is a big false belief and it gives confusion to a person emotionally. The truth is, love and relationship are two different matters. They related to each other, yes…but they didn’t born together. Here are differences between love and relationship.

Love Growth From Within

Love Growth From Within

1) Love already exist inside us. It’s within us.
2) Love blossom together with these emotions: Joy, gratitude, excitement, hope, passion, enthusiasm and satisfaction.
3) Love is internal.
4) Love never go away. It just ‘hides‘ when these emotions growth: hate, fear, despair, envy, boredom, worry, anger, guilt, irritation, disappointment and criticism.

1) Relationship is effort to growth together in every situation (good and bad).
2) Relationship growth together with time.
3) Relationship comes together with every emotion, not just love. So if you find people in relationship arguing to each other moderately, it is normal.
4) Relationship is external
5) Relationship is like a bridge that connect love within 2 people.

Relationship gets better and stronger when love growth from within. It means, love have to start somewhere in ourselves before it could growth externally. If we want to make our relationship (regardless what’s the relationship is) growth positively and growth with love,  give out the love we have in us first. The rest will come and growth naturally.

*Note: Original post was in Ladyroses Facebook Page  . 

Quick Tips – How to Build Your Love Life?

Do you feel it’s hard to get someone to share love with? Or have you been lonely for many years or always in and out of relationship? Life is meaningless if you didn’t share love with others (especially someone right).

So here are the quick tips to fix that situation:

1) To get love from others, you must first give love to yourself.

There are many ways to share love within you. One of it is to respect your own self. Never say negative things about yourself. For example “I’m not smart”, “I’m weak” or “I’m a loser”. Give yourself credit even if you make mistakes.

Spread Love with Your Smile

2) The easiest way to share your love is through your smile. Smile improves your look from inside.

You walk on the street feeling down and you caught someone smiling at you. The smile he shared when you are feeling down is not coincidence. Universe is sending you message and love to make you feel better. Smile gives love and love eases pain. So why not be the one who give the smile and ease somebody bad day. After all, smile reflects your inner beauty.

3) The energy you send out to people around you is IMPORTANT.

You get what you give. It applies to energy too. It’s a law of action and reaction. Careful of the energy you send out to others. Here’s a simple example:-

If you keep complaining about loneliness, you are sending negative energy instead of love (positive energy). When you send out the negative energy, people will walk away from it.

4) Go easy on communication.

Love growth through communication too. Say things that pleasant for people to communicate more with you. Avoid sensitive discussion or subject that hurts people feeling. If you go hard on communication, you will find it’s hard for people to love you. Communication takes two ways to growth. People listen to you when you explaining your life, you should do the same when people explaining theirs.

5) Start knowing yourself.

It is great to know yourself from A to Z. When you know YOU, you can help others know YOU too. Ask yourself question: How far do you know yourself? What you don’t like and what you like? Remember this; people get to know you the way you get to know yourself.

6) Never lie about YOU.

No matter how good a person at lying, the body languages and energy always speak differently. If someone caught you lying, you can say ‘bye-bye” to love and relationship.

7) Avoid seeking sympathy.

Here’s another simple example:- “I being dumped and since then I always get sick”. You may get the sympathy but not the love.

8′) Yourself first.

Give priority to yourself first doesn’t mean you are being selfish. At right situation like loving, self-protection and respect, you must give priority to yourself. Love yourself before others can love you. Save yourself before others can save you. Lead your own self before others can follow you. If you ignore the priority of yourself, others will ignore you.


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