How to Deal with Thoughts of Failure?

Go make mistakes today.

The first response you will get for yourself is FEAR. A sign your ego is at its defense ‘you cannot make mistakes because mistake is humiliating. You cannot fail because failure is humiliating’. Let the thought be. Acknowledge it but do not give energy to it. Do not analyze how far the future mistakes and failures would be. Don’t think further than the first thought.
This can stop the fear of failure from growing as a feeling, where it will let you sail with your unconscious belief that you can never achieve success in your life. If you sail together with these thoughts of failure far from your consciousness and far away from your awareness, you have already failed in reality.

Then make your first step, an opposite step of failure; a successful step. This is a crucial step because to do the opposite of failure is already a success. This success is far greater than the one you imagine would happen in the future because it heals the fear of failure in you in an instant. And because it increases your self-esteem one strength at the time.

Never fear failure because failure and success are equally divided. If you are making a success, you must expect failures. Likewise, if you are making failures, you must expect success. Both successes and failures draw each other closer. When you think of success, your mind draws the thought of failure too. When you think of failure, your mind draws the thought of success for you. It is not the success or failure that brings the fear in you but the conflict you have when these two entities draw each other. So it is important to aware that this is just your mind bring balance for you.

And for the third step, practice surrender. Sometimes thoughts can go wild on making you feel like a failure. Whatever you are thinking in your mind, ALWAYS trust your feeling, intuition, guts, God; that whatever failures you are experiencing, it is happening to MAKE YOU A SUCCESSFUL PERSON.

Now take a deep breath and get ready to make mistakes and face failures. Learn and forgive yourself along the journey. And see what is unfolding for you.

If you are making mistakes

If you are making mistakes

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Bubbles of Thoughts

If everything in this world exists to tell and teach us something about life, there must be something about the ocean bubbles too. Why are they here? Of course, it is a process of momentum by the waves but why bubbles; an existence of a short-lived life?

Try this perspective;

Let say the ocean bubbles, every of it represent our thoughts. It comes and go in one seconds. It is rare to see ocean bubbles last for a minute. When a bubble appear and disappear, another bubbles take turns. On the beautiful shores around the world, there are countless of bubbles. Perhaps millions or billions, come and go.

Our thoughts work the same way too. Given all the human in this world right now processing thoughts, it could be billions of thoughts appearing right now. Just like the ocean bubbles appearing right now. And as I write this, new thoughts appeared and go, new bubbles appeared and go too.

The similarity is thoughts exist less than seconds too (perhaps less than one second). And the existence of the thoughts never die, just like the existence of the bubbles. Thoughts in general are countless in numbers. That is why we always complaint that we have so many things in our minds. Although they come and go like the bubbles, but their abstract appearance like monkey swings from one branch to another is considered messy most of the time. Hence, we get discomfort by too many thoughts.

So what can we do? We certainly can’t stop the thoughts from coming into our minds, just like the shore can’t stop the bubbles from appearing. However, there is a thing we can do.

Do nothing.

Let the thoughts come and go as it is. Just like the sandy shores let the foam of bubbles come and go as it is. Have you seen any shores in this world hold the bubbles and wait for another momentum so the size of the bubbles become bigger? No. The shores allow the waves work as it is and allow the bubbles appear as it is. We should do the same thing too. Let the thoughts appear as it is. Don’t hold on the thoughts and make it bigger by adding energy to it (by thinking more about it).

Now, don’t get me wrong. There are important thoughts and these thoughts need to be expanded by put it into a plan and actions, healing and creating. It is a process we call manifesting. But think of it wisely, how many thoughts that come to you today are important?  Let say out of thousands thoughts? And really, you must know it. The reason we get mentally tired and miserable because we try to live by all the thoughts! On every thoughts that appeared, we tried to analyze it. We tend to judge it. We try to understand it.

Part of the beautiful beach and shore is the bubbles that appeared after the sound of waves hit the floor. Part of the beautiful mind is our thoughts that appear after one another. Let it be as it is. Let it swing in your mind. Don’t pay attention to it unless it is really important to be manifested into your life. If you do this long enough (on daily practice) you will notice that the thoughts didn’t really have power over you. It just thoughts. You will also notice that they didn’t appear quite frequently as they used to be. You will be surprised that important thoughts will appear visible in your mind compared to unimportant thoughts. Then remarkable ideas and creative thoughts are easily access at this point.

If we didn’t pay attention to our thoughts, where else can we pay attention to?

Life. Pay attention to life entirely. Pay attention to your body by feeling it. Pay attention to the life around you by feeling it. Feels it in your heart and every part of your body. Use all your senses but not your mind. Pay attention to your breathing and you will notice that life breathe as you breathe.

This method of shifting your consciousness has been taught beautifully by Eckhart Tolle in his book The Power of Now.

You have the power to stop from getting miserable with the thoughts that comes into your mind. Let it be. If it is yours and it’s important to be manifested, you just know what you need to do. Otherwise, be harmony like the bubbles and the shores. Accept one another as it is. Accept the thoughts that comes into your mind with love. They will do nothing harm to you and you will not feel mentally tired easily.

If You Must.

For some people, they want to be identified by their thoughts. They take serious note on what is going on inside their mind. They simply need to know what are the things that bothering their minds. Some people needs clarity. It is alright if you must know. Here some simple tips on how you can untangle the messy chains of thoughts in your mind.

Write all the thoughts that appear in your mind in one piece of paper. Spend five minutes for this task. You will be surprised that thousand thoughts you claimed swinging in your mind are actually less than 10 thoughts counted in number. This happen because only important thoughts scream the most. Once you know what kind of thoughts that bothering your mind, you can start taking necessary actions to solve and heal the matter. You can use the same method if you have too many ideas in your mind that you need to manifest the thoughts into reality.

Bubbles of Thoughts

Bubbles of Thoughts