The Power of Wishes – Part 1

In the previous article, I have mentioned about words that creating our lives. Today, I would like to share my experiences on wishes. I am a human too; therefore I did make mistakes in turning my words into wishes. Allow me to picture the mistakes I made, so you would avoid the same mistake in life.

Every human have been granted with freewill, including freewill of wishes. If we realize, it all started with wishes. I wish to be richer, I wish I could take itI want to be richerI want to take it and many more wishes. Either we use the word “wish” or “want”, we already wishing for it. Remember that “we create as we speak”, every wish we made, and we are creating it. It just a matter of time for our wishes to turn into reality. How good is that? Well, it is good if we wish for the great things. But what about those negative things we accidentally wish into our lives? This happened to me last week, anger and bad wish.

It is not easy to face anger especially when we are alone. I felt it came to me and it came quick. No matter how much I prepared myself to tango with my own anger, I slipped. When we get angry, we tend to say things we didn’t mean to say. Not just that, people who get angry always ask to be leave alone. To say it is already bad, to know it’s happening for real is even worst.

I just want to be alone

I just want to be alone

That’s what I did last week. I asked silently inside my head “I just want to be alone”. As promised that everything is in creating process right now, the moment I asked to be alone was the moment everything I love to be with was slowly taken away from me indirectly. I have to say indirectly because what was taken might not necessarily in human form. It could be situation we love the most, relationships or something symbolic to us. The best example is losing support from the people who always support us. However, to realize these smallest changes in life is not everybody’s favourite. In fact, many people only realize the changes in life when something relate to it pop up as a problem. If I have not conscious enough, I would not realize the changes too.

The moment I asked to be alone, everything that I was close with (emotionally, spiritually and mentally) was slowly walked away from me. The first thing that walked away from me was the emotional support from my best friend. Knowing her for many years and she never fails me. However, that day was different. When I asked her for help, she refused to help me. Here’s the weirdest part, she gave me hint to deal with my situation alone and there’s no need for her to help me. She left me alone in a car for more than 30 minutes and she was not that kind of person.

More things happened after that. My other two best-friends were supposed to have lunch with me and they were late. Even if they were late before, they will text. But last week was totally different. They seem like ‘don’t care’ anymore. We end up have our lunches separately.

The last thing that happened completely knocks my head and realized that I had wish for something I do not want. It was my ring and I lost it like a magic. The ring represents symbolic life to me. I was cleaning my hands with a wet tissue and poof! …the ring was missing. I realized it was there and in split seconds it was gone. From that moment I asked myself “What have I wished?”

It took me less than an hour to figure out the mess. The first thing I do was Ho’oponopono cleansing. I gave love and thanked the situation for the service and experience it gave me. Then I rephrased my wishes. I said “I am grateful that I have my family and my friends, I am with them and I am with love. My ring is in my bag”. I repeated it many times for an hour.

Three hours later, I slowly searched for the ring again in my bag. Suddenly my hand felt something solid. It is my ring and it was nicely wrapped with dry tissue. Magical isn’t it? Well it is a magic if you wish to see it that way. Later that evening, my best friends and I gather together and I told them about the wishes. They were sorry for things that happened but it was not their fault. I asked for it. The time them being late or when one refused to help me was the time I asked to be alone. Life is fair. God is even fairer.

The lesson is simple, careful for what we wish for.

In the situation where we get angry, calm down before we make our wishes. Avoid ask yourself to be alone or ask people to leave you. Instead wish for the space to calm down. The simplest example is:

“I need a space so I could feel the space with love”.

When we ask for this, we are asking God to share love with us in order to help us taking care the anger. Love, no doubt will help us reduce the anger too. Not just that, people who appear in our life at that moment of anger are people who could help us growth love and reduce anger.

It is important to know that it always never too late when it comes to create a wish. So, let’s rephrase our wishes and turn our lives into something positive and loving because we do have the power to change.

Things You Should Do Before New Year – Part 2

Here’s the second part of Things You Should Do Before New Year. Get your part 1 here.

#3: Celebrate Your 2011 Success.

Celebrate Your Success the Way You Like

There’s no point chasing for success if you don’t even celebrate it when you achieve one. Celebration is like a reward to yourself and to all your efforts. When you celebrate it, you affirm your success (even a little one). Affirm your success help you build better self-confidence for your life journey.

Take a pen and write down the success you have achieve in the past 12 months. No matter how big or how small the success to you, if you think it’s worth to celebrate, right it down.

Then, make a celebration the way you like (I had mine yesterday in Baskin & Robbins). Read the success note (Declaration of your success) to your family or your friends or your love ones. It’s important to share the success with them because they are part of it directly or indirectly.

#4: Planning Your 2012 Journey

Almost everyone do this every year. The easiest part is to plan ‘material wish-list’. Everyone could write down what they want to buy or get in next year. The hardest part is to plan for personal and spiritual growth.

In life, journey covers the physical aspect (material, business, and career), mental aspect and spiritual aspect. When you plan your journey for coming year, make sure you didn’t left any aspect out of it. Here’s simple example for you.

Physical aspect – Besides planning to buy new stuff (like a car or camera or hp), you should plan on how far your career should go in 2012. What do you want to achieve in your career? How much salary are you looking to settle in 2012? What type of projects you wish to participate next year? You can ass financial aspect under this section too.

Mental aspect – If you can’t see the world with your own eyes, see it through others people eyes. Gain experiences through words written in the paper. Ask yourself, what area of life or knowledge you wish to explore in 2012? Economic? Autobiography? Motivation? Fiction or Non-Fiction? Once you know, right down how many books you wish you read in 2012.

Spiritual aspect – Spiritual can be explored through prayers and meditation. How far you willing to spend your time in 2012 for prayer or meditation? Write down what’s the impact you want to happen in your life if you pray or meditate? For example, if you are a temper person, the goal is to make you a calm person.

Every plan must come with goal. When you write the plan, make sure you write the goal next to it.

#5: Imagine and Clarify Your Move.

Your Imagination Must Get You A Feeling That You Already Have It

Imagination and Clarification is important. Without imagination, you are blindly living your life. Without clarify the move is like you walk to your destination without any signboards to lead you. Both Imagination and Clarify is also important to your subconscious mind. Remember, what you see in your mind, what you feel, what you say and affirm will be carried out by your subconscious mind as an order.

When you have the plans and goals, see clearly through your mind that you ARE achieving it. The vision must clear. Then affirm it by say it to yourself (Say it repeatedly like the mantra I showed you, which would be better. Avoid using “I will” because things are happening now, not yesterday and not in future)

Example: You want a new car. Your vision should be cleared that you ARE driving your new car. You ARE paying for the car with feeling gratitude and wealthy (This is very important part. If you feel burden, you are giving out signal contradict to your goal. Hence you might not be able to achieve the goal). You ARE looking fantastic when you driving your new car. That’s imagination. So feel it too.

Clarify your move is knowing and affirming what you are doing to achieve it. Your action throughout the journey must not contradict your desire. Clarify will help you stay on the right track to achieve your goals.

Take 30 minutes before you sleep tonight and tomorrow night to imagine and clarify your move for 2012. Make it simple, clear and have fun with your imagination.

If you require details on every step, please contact Ladyroses. I wish you Happy 2012. May all your goals and dreams come true in 2012.

Things You Should Do Before New Year – Part 1

I have this written in my Facebook Page few days before new year. I decided to publish it in the blog so everyone can refer it from time to time.

#1: Make Spaces.

You can’t bring new things into your lives when you still clinging on the old things. Make spaces is important if you want to live a better life in 2012.


Relationship: If you wish to be in a relationship or married by 2012, make space by having big bed, empty half of the closet (so he/she can put his/her cloths later) and stop dating the person you knew you will not end up your life with.

Emotionally: If you wish to be happy in 2012, make space by letting go the sadness, frustration, anger or hate in your heart. Happiness and love will not rise inside you when their seats in your heart have been filled by sadness and darkness.

Physical material: Let say you want to get new furniture. Make space by give away the old furniture.

Remember, making space is like a universal signal saying “I am ready to have this (name the thing you want)

#2: Get Rid of Negative Energy.

No point carrying the unnecessary energy to 2012. Many people wanted to achieve new goals (material, career, personal growth, relationship) but it seems hard to get it. The reason they fail is because they keep living on the same experiences (especially emotionally) like last year.

Part of the energy comes from within. It also means, we have control over it. This is how you can get rid negative energy before you enter 2012.

No Negative Energy is Allowed Here

  • List down the things that you STILL feeling bad about it on piece of paper. For example all the bad experiences that causes you hate and anger or frustration.
  • Once you done and before you end the letter, you write – “I’m letting you go now for good and I’m thanking you for the service you gave me” (Bad experiences taught us priceless lesson and they were there so we would appreciate good times in life. Bad experiences is not rubbish, hence we thank them for the lessons)
  • Crumple it and throw it somewhere else (outside your house). IMPORTANT: I’ve learnt that NEVER burn the paper. Burning it will only make the negative energy stronger.
  • Once you threw it away, it is time for you to build positive energy. Write down all the positive feelings you want to live with. For example: “I am more loving and harmony
  • Once you done and before you end the letter, you write – “I’m making spaces for you to enter my life. Please welcome in”. Folded and keep it in your sacred place.

NOTE: This is not a ritual from specific religions. This is just a way to make your mind see things clearly. The act of throwing or accepting makes your mind work better. Furthermore, there are many ways to get rid the negative energy. If you need more clarification on this subject, feel free to contact me. Happy throw the negative energy!